Irrational fear that I won't be able to conceive?

[isthisnormal05]

Just to start I'm not trying to be insensitive to those who can't conceive, I just genuinely have a concern. We're currently ttc for our first, have been for about 6 months but I just can't shake this irrational fear that I won't be able to conceive. I don't know what it is but it almost feels like a gut feeling that there might be something wrong? I did a pregnancy test the other day because thought I had some symptoms and whilst I was waiting for it I put my hands on my stomach and just had this awful feeling like just knowing it's not something my body can do.
I'm just wondering whether this is normal, for someone who hasn't been pregnant before to not really feel like they can be, or if maybe it's one of those gut feelings I should take seriously/maybe something is wrong?

Sorry if I sound insensitive or stupid.

I think that's a common feeling. I was certain I'd be unable to conceive as I couldn't imagine my body being able to do any of that, but here I am 14 weeks pregnant. It took us six months to conceive and while it feels like such a long time, it's really quite normal. There's no way of knowing, really, but there's no reason to believe you can't conceive.

@Celebelly Thank you. That's exactly how I feel even when I look at my body I just can't imagine it being possible. Congratulations on the pregnancy!! Xx

Even now I can't really believe my body is doing it. It's a very weird thing to try to get a handle on!

A lot of women feel like that I think.

For me it was because I'd spent years doing everything possible to avoid getting pregnant. You then suddenly fear that you can't!

I think it's also because when you TTC, generally it's because you want a baby now and when it doesn't happen immediately it's hard to shrug your shoulders and say never mind.

When I got pregnant I remember moaning that 9 months was such a long time to wait! (and it was - I was sick for the whole 9 months...)

I used to worry about it, i always wanted children but I couldn't imagine it happening to me. I now have 3 children all conceived very quickly.
I think even if you've had a baby it's still hard to comprehend the process of conception and your body producing a baby. It's almost too miraculous to be real.
Hoping you get your BFP very soon

I feel exactly the same OP - it's horrible isn't it? I think part of the problem is feeling like it's something you want so badly but have limited control over. But 6 months (or longer) is totally normal and nothing in the least to worry about!

I had this. From month 1 I was sure it wouldn’t happen.
And for a long time it didn’t and got diagnosed with unexplained infertility.

I put too much pressure on myself.

Btw - it did happen eventually 😀

Try not to worry, it is early days in conceiving terms, everyone's body is different and I wish the best to you in your TTC journey.

Thanks all so much. Feel so much better knowing it's a common thought process. I was beginning to convince myself this feeling was my bodies way of warning me I'm infertile. Hopefully it'll happen soon

I feel like this and we aren't TTC but I feel like it's pointless as it won't happen. So no you're not alone x

I think gut feeling is intuitive. I thought we’d have a problem but I always believed we’d have children one day. Both ended up being true. We ended up going through ivf but also got pregnant naturally after 2 kids and were (groan) totally relaxed.