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Relationship with a narcissist

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Sinceslicedbread · 07/08/2018 06:51

AIBU to ask if anyone here has been in a relationship with a narcissist? I've started to a lot of research on this, and every time I read about the relationship between the narcissist and the other person, I'm like YES, YES, YES. There's so many things I can recognise and agree with.

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CanterSlow · 11/09/2018 16:35

they just suck all life and hope and love out of you

this. there is something about them that makes me think they want your soul (since their one's in shreds or maybe never existed its hard to say). its pretty creepy actually, the lights are on but there's no-one at home.

but they're weaklings really, lacking, hence the vampire thing. but they will inflict damage if you give them a chance. don't.

namechange1111111 · 11/09/2018 16:37

Yep, married one before his true colours came out.

Was pregnant when his "real" behaviour came out and went on to marry him as I thought I was being hormonal with the pregnancy.

He made me think I was cracking up.
I wasn't.

Ignored me for weeks. I mean literally not one word if I asked him a question, walked out the room.

Disappearing for days and then reappearing but blaming it on me.

Emotional abuse, financial abuse you name it.

Still dealing with the fucker now over our daughter and it just drains me wondering what he will try next.

Run away as fast and as far as you can.

You will feel amazing while they want you but once they decide they don't they will make you feel as if it's your fault as they can never be held accountable for anything.

I was reading about this the other day and they apparently only tend to want to be with people they admire or aspire to be like.
However, because they have a superior sense of self worth they will drag you down till they don't admire or aspire to be like you anymore. Basically they will try and break you so they then feel better than you.

stellabird · 11/09/2018 16:39

My mother was one so I didn't have a choice. Run, as fast as you can.

squishee · 11/09/2018 17:23

Yes I have. It goes lovebomb-devalue-discard. They are all the same. Honestly, don't stay with one of these specimens - or it will destroy you.
There are plenty of books available if you need to be sure that that's what you're dealing with. But don't waste more of your mental energy than you are already trying to work him out. These types are not worth it.

liverbird79 · 11/09/2018 17:26

Love bomb, devalue, discard.

That nails it.

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