Wondering about experimenting with my sexuality but too old?

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I've always considered myself heterosexual. I think my family would disown me if I actually openly had a relationship with anyone who isn't male, I just don't think it would ever be possible.

I'm fairly old to be thinking about this. I do have MH problems and wondering if this is just part of that. Not got a diagnosis where risky sexual behaviour is a symptom but I think I have been fairly promiscuous recently

In trying to impress men I guess who I've wanted to love me but of course it's gone tits up - I have played around during sex with their lesbian fantasies, I suppose making out I would do stuff I really never had any intention to do

I've watched a bit of porn too... lesbian porn but obviously it's written for men isn't it... so why would a straight woman be turned on by it?

Would you dare if you were me to try speaking to women OLD? Or am I just going through a phase or something and that would be unfair?

I've namechanged. Promise I'm genuine. I can't say this IRL to anyone.

Are you attracted to women? That's one fundamental thing missing from your post.

Lots of straight women like lesbian porn, nothing unusual about that.

If you want to try a relationship with a woman that's fine, but please be upfront with them about your feelings. It's not fair to let someone develop feelings for you when you don't know yourself if it's something you want to pursue.

Is this about sex only or relationships
Because you can do what you want with either. But it has to be consensual in both circumstances
But I guess you need to work out what it is for you and how it will make you feel

How old are you?

How old are you out of interest?

Thirties.

I don't know if I'm attracted to women. I've had quite a few dreams about women but never really thought about it.

I don't have a crush on any particular woman. Not sure if I ever have. I have liked attention from lesbian women at times in my life I guess but they've always been friends and joked around with me I think rather than being more than banter/flirting

Well I do have a crush on one celebrity I guess who's female and lesbian but I don't know

More maybe in an admiring way, would like someone like that to find me attractive.

Maybe straight women have these thoughts?

Am I overthinking what it means?

I think I was more turned on by the lesbian fantasy than the man I was with.

If you're not dead you're not too old. Live your life on your terms and do what makes you happy.

Maybe straight women have these thoughts?

I guess some women are more bisexual than straight. I'm straight and the thought of kissing or having sex with a woman is slightly repulsive to me. I don't know if everyone who identifies as straight feel the same way.

I think if you want to experiment then that’s your choice. But do not do anything other than make it clear that’s all you’re looking for. Some people will be happy to go along with that. Others not so much. Don’t just use people. It’s not a game, unless everyone involved wants it to be a game

I thought you were going to say you were in your 70s or something!

You're not old.

Too old. Noone in their thirties has sex anymore.

I have been thinking much the same recently as I've noticed I see some adult women and think how gorgeous they are and wonder about what it would be like, gorgeous in a sexual attraction way.
I won't pursue it though, I'm not in the market for a new relationship.

I once considered myself bisexual

I even entered into a relationship with a woman. Enjoyed sex and we did all sorts..

Lovely woman she is. But I couldn't commit to her - I just knew. She was cool with it, and she's very happy with her girlfriend

Once that was out of my system though, I have never, ever looked at or thought about another woman again

I'm currently very happy with my male partner

If you go onto dating apps with the sole intention of using somebody to figure out if you’re straight or not, that’s not fair on the lass you start talking to. I’m bisexual and it’s infuriating when women use you to impress men, or for the sake of having some ‘risky sexual behaviour’. So if you decide you’re attracted to women, go for it! Just don’t treat it and them as some great experiment.
Maybe try lesbian written erotica, if you want to try something less aimed at the male gaze and see if you can engage with that

I'd say go for it, I've seen an advert from a lady on her 80's who'd had a happy marriage and wanted to explore now that he was dead. If she wasn't too old then you're certainly not.
The only thing I'd say is don't play with people's feelings. Be honest about what you're looking for.

I did it aged 38.....5 years later, no regrets...and still with the same woman. Best sex ever. TMI.

I'd go for it. You are definitely not too old!!

Am I bisexual?

How do you know? I don't want to go online and message any women and end up just wasting their time. I don't know if IRL I would just chicken out of meeting up etc

I feel the exact same attraction to a woman I fancy as a man. I get the same tingles if they’re flirting with me and the same urge to get to a bedroom with them
If you’re honest online that this would be your first encounter/relationship/whatever then experiment a bit and find out. Just try not to lead anyone on

Maybe check out this thread on gingerbeer which is a website for lesbian and bi women

boards.gingerbeer.co.uk/index.php?topic=66086.0

Then go to a gaybar. Just be upfront with people. You're not sure you want a relationship, youre not even sure you want more than a kiss. Don't lead people on.
I genuinely believe that we're all a little big gay. Women turn me on massively, yet when I was with a woman, all I could think about was the lack of penis. I'm still turned on by women but I prefer to be with men (DH inparticular)

I am very attracted to women and have always wanted to have sexual relationships with women. I'm in a relationship with a man and it all goes well I will never get to experience this. He's not the experimental type. I wish I had had more fun sexually before I settled down. I say go for it but be completely up front about how you feel!