Going on holiday with heavy drinkers

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DH & me are going away for a child free long weekend with friends. We have kids they don’t. In the past, we’ve been away with them & had a good time with a fair amount of alcohol but I’ve recently cut down on my drinking as I find it makes me so ill & paranoid the next day. I still have a few drinks through the evening but don’t get to the drunk stage. DH rarely drinks but will drink more than me socially.
We met up with the couple we are going away with in a larger group this weekend & it was awful. One of them got completely p**d & was so rude & sweary in a restaurant it was embarrassing.
We are going to a concert when we’re away & the tickets were pricey. I want to have a few drinks before this but be able to enjoy & appreciate the event. We are staying in a nice hotel too & I was really looking forward to a couple of relaxed child free dinners with a few glasses of wine. I now feel really anxious about the whole trip & feel I will be on edge wondering if they’re going to get obnoxiously drunk.
I’ve not mentioned how I feel to DH yet as they’re more his friends than mine- should I & should I think about how to handle the situation if they do? Or should I just go with the flow & are what happens? I realise it’s their holiday too & they enjoy drinking more than me but I feel so worried 😟

I think you’re massively overthinking this tbh. You life has changed and that’s great, but theirs hasn’t and that’s fine. If you get uncomfortable just leave. At the concert you’ll all be listening to the music anyway

What's the worst that can happen? I would've just go and have a nice time.

What are you worried about exactly? If they get drunk and rowdy then why does it matter? Just because you've cut down on drinking, it doesn't mean everyone has.

Completely agree - It’s me & my reactions that are the crux of the problem. I felt totally out of the loop at the weekend and that makes me wonder if I don’t actually have much in common with them beyond alcohol. I just hated their rudeness though (sober they would never behave like that). I’ll warn DH I think that I might take myself off on my own for a wee while.

You can always split up later in the evening, you and DH can have your quiet, relaxed dinner while they go out drinking if you want to. You don't have to be glued to them. Just enjoy yourself and do what you want to do

It is their holiday/event too. You don't have any right to comment on how much they do or don't drink.

With you, OP. Just make sure you aren't tied in to staying with them and have back up plans and your DP is on side.

Savvy The OP is just trying to prepare. She has every right not to go along with people who drink so much they become obnoxious. And who might drag her DP into it.