To go nc with him?

[Tobythecat]

Just got into a row with my brother and he brings up that I should just get a job. I explain why I cant due to my autism and sensory issues and he says he's probably a bit autistic too but i'm just using autism as an excuse because i cant be bothered to get a job. He also said lots of people are disabled but they still get jobs because they really want to work and i'm just weak minded. I tried explaining but he doesn't get it.

Should I go nc with him? He has said similar in the past before and he just makes me feel like shit. He earns 30k and i explained i'd much rather be working and earning money than living off 500 quid a month ESA.

If he doesn't add anything positive to your life then possibly

I have dyspraxia and neither of my sister's understand although they aren't nasty about it I guess

Using your autism as a weapon irrespective of your ability to work or not is really disrespectful.

I don’t know whether NC would make you happier? Is he kind in all other ways? Does he bring anything positive to your life?

He might be knackered and taking it out on you, no excuse for being so rude but the heat is burning people out and maybe he is handling it badly ( maybe he has been feeling resentful of you)

It sounds as though you were arguing, so he threw a curve ball in (you not working), to get you on the back-foot?

It depends what he is like at other times. Certainly go LC.

What were you originally arguing about, do you often disagree?

He only contacts me when he wants something and i don't hear from him any other time, he never contacts me and doesn't seem to care about family. He has said some nasty things to me before and I cut him out, but he came back into my life when he was homeless as his girlfriend kicked him out and i took him in for 3 months.

Yep, NC. Definitely. He's using you and abusing you. Do you really want a person like that in your life?

He's just made me feel like shit. I wish I could work and im very self-conscious about it and embarrassed about it.