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To enjoy this new found invisibility?

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YippeeKayakOtherBuckets · 06/08/2018 12:08

Just got back from a week away in a cheesy holiday park, which was awesome.

We did quite a lot of the evening entertainment as the kids are old enough to enjoy it all now. We also swam and did the beach a couple of times.

I am now completely invisible on the dance floor. For the first time in my life I could throw drunken shapes without being pestered by men trying to dance at me. I had a rare old time. Also standing at the bar without being groped or approached at all.

In the pool and at the beach I gave zero fucks about my wobbly legs and tummy, and felt confident that no one gave me a second glance.

I’m loving this! I’m not suggesting I used to be a hot young thing but there has certainly been a sharp drop off of unwanted attention since I hit my late thirties, put on some weight and cut my hair short.

I’m not sure whether it’s just that I look middle aged and no longer attractive to the male gaze, or whether the confidence of age has given me super fuck off vibes, or what. But it’s great. I might even start going clubbing again.

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ElspethFlashman · 06/08/2018 12:12

I know what you mean actually. I don't mourn being objectified. Not one bit.

PaulRuddislush · 06/08/2018 12:15

I'm 53 and I still get chatted up, admittedly by older geezers but it's still happening.

YippeeKayakOtherBuckets · 06/08/2018 12:40

PaulRudd, you’ve got ten years on me so maybe I’m at the lull between playas and silver foxes? I’ll enjoy it while it lasts...

Grin

It just feels really freeing to be able to dance on my own without fending off drunk men. I once got pestered by three men in a row while dancing at a gig where my husband was playing. Which I did point out. But it didn’t seem to put them off wanting to grind on me. Bleeee.

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PaulRuddislush · 06/08/2018 12:44

Your right actually, there was a bit of a lull and now I'm apparently at the other side 😮Me and dh were in a bar in Gran Canaria a few months ago, it was full of middle aged Scandinavian guys who wouldn't piss off and leave me alone even though dh was RIGHT THERE. Weird.

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