Was this a harsh comment?

[Sunshinepimms]

I can't sleep and can't tell if the last thing I said to the guy I really like was harsh and could be taken not as a joke.
I said to him "annoying that I can't sleep"
His reply "thinking of me are you"
My reply "you'd like me to be wouldn't you"

Then I got no reply. Did that come across harsh? I can't tell? I really like him and don't want to mess this up! I've had counselling about relationships because they always go wrong for me. I feel like I'm being a bit cold towards him and not opening up as much as he is. But I'm just petrified of being hurt again.

Sorry for the crazy ramble

Nope, nothing wrong with that.

He might have gone to sleep or realised there’s not really a reply to that. I wouldn’t overthink it

Nope it was flirty and fun. He must have fallen asleep

I read it back and thought oh that could be taken bitchy as if you'd like me to but I'm not. I'm glad it doesn't! I'm just being stupid. He's on holiday, we were taking back and forwards for a few mins and then it just stopped, so worried I said something wrong.
I need to stop over thinking, I always do it!

Sounds fine, he probably just fell asleep!

He was awake and out on holiday

Sounds playful not bitchy.

If he's on holiday he probably just got distracted with holiday stuff or maybe he's working on his cheeky reply.

Yeah, don't worry OP. I used to read all sorts into texts in a new relationship but 99% of the time I was wrong! As others have said, he's either asleep or just doing holiday stuff.

Yea thanks everyone. I just feel so uncertain atm but he hasn't really given me the reason to feel like this until now. He's been lovely and keen and I'm trying to play it so cool and know sometimes I can come across a cow. So worried it might have come across wrong.

You’re overthinking it.

I am over thinking. I wish I hadn't ended my counselling now as back then I was fine and had not met this guy. But now I feel like a mess again and unsure and scared of being hurt/rejected. Will take me about 6 weeks to see anyone and I might not get the same person. I know it's easy for people and family to say keep busy but it's so hard :(

You're definitely over thinking that message definitely isn't bitchy.

Ok thanks. I've had to take some diazepam to calm myself down as my anxiety was going through the roof. I said so stupid being so anxious over the smallest thing.

You’re overthinking an everyday conversation

Definitely not bitchy, it's fun and playful. Put it from your mind!

I know I'm trying to forget about it But I still haven't heard from him 😔

He’s on holiday. I assume with friends? It would be pretty rude and unsociable of him to be glued to his phone the whole time! I imagine he got distracted by his night out then went to bed and is still asleep.
You’re definitely over thinking it.

Yea with friends. I'm trying to stay busy with my DS. I'm trying to learn from my past experiences. It's just very hard to change the way you've always been. But I can't carry on being how I've been otherwise I'll forever be alone.

Did your counselling not give you some coping mechanisms for this kind of anxiety attack? Sorry if I sound harsh, I genuinely don’t mean to but it’s an ordinary text and you are catastrophising massively. This is the time to implement the tools you should have gained from counselling.

I hope you feel better soon.

She didn't give me any coping mechanisms. Yes I agree with you. I'm trying to pull myself together. I feel a bit better now than I did this morning. I'm not panicking so much.

matilda I've just realised from what you said I was having an anxiety attack. I don't think I've ever had one before. Or to that extent. I'm on anti depressants, will it help if the dose it made higher?