Hangry Husband

[LadyRussell]

My OH has some MH issues which he is treated for.

He gets really shitty, angry and verbally abusive when he is hungry.

I must admit I do encourage him to eat regularly because of this and as I do most of the cooking (my choice) I plan this out a bit so he’s not allowing his blood sugar to drop (it this why?).

He gets really overly engrossed in things and a little obsessive and will forget to eat and then is a shitty twat.

Sometimes I feel like his bloody mother - just a rant really but why do people get shitty when they don’t eat?

Being hangry is a real thing that isn't, in my experience, exclusive to men.

Sorry I don’t didn’t mean to imply that.

Everyone can get hangry on occasion. Your husband is no different in that respect.

But causing you to walk on egg-shells, pre-empting his moods and trying to coax him into relaxing and eating in order to keep the peace is a form of emotional abuse. Again, not unique to your husband, but then again, you need to decide where your lines are drawn.

Yes it is because us women get something to eat before we get to that stage. Men (a generalisation, I know), just wait...and wait...

Low blood sugar can cause bad moods, tell him to get his checked.

The other day we were somewhere where there were some really badly behaved teenagers on the river who bashed his paddle board with a hired canoes (as in they didn’t really care about it) and he started swearing at them and I was mortified and I knew it was because he needed to eat and he said so afterwards.

If he starts on me I just calmly say @you need to eat” and TBF he does - but it’s fucking annoying from a grown adult.

Being hangry is a real thing and i can understand it happening once in a while but on a regular basis is just not on. Your husband is an adult and should know by now that letting himself get hungry will put him in abad mood.

Have you called him on his behaviour? Told him your not his punching bag every time he gets hungry?

Like pp has said you shouldn't have to tiptoe on eggshells. Frankly i wouldn't put up with it op.

Does he get hangry at work?

Bet he manages to control his anger there and doesn't get verbally abusive to his boss

It sounds like an excuse for him to be abusive.

You've made yourself responsible for his food supply, giving him license to abuse you at will.

If you're saying that he's otherwise a placid, gentle, laid back sort of guy who turns into a complete twat only when he's a bit peckish - then yes, get him to the GP because that's pretty damn unusual, I'd say. Is it possible that what he lacks is self-control rather than food?

My DH does this. Not the violence / hitting things, but he's a grumpy uncommunicative arsehole if he's too hungry. And he frequently lets himself get that way. And he appears incapable of sorting his own healthy meals, so he ends up ordering a kebab significantly more often than he should - he has a BMI of 34 ish. He won't eat the healthier meals I suggest, even if I tailor them to suit his taste. I refuse to take responsibility for his diet any longer, & we've had the conversation about not having another DC until he's lost a good amount of weight because I don't want to be a disabled widow with 2 young DCs. He still isn't sorting it. I don't know what to do.

Just making sure of something, he's a grown adult right?

My niece gets properly hangry. I've seen her on full on emotional breakdown, then she is given a snack and she slowly rises up out of it. She's awkward with food though and only 9!
Adults should be able to organise their own food without becoming asshats.

I get hangry and have done since being a child. I manage it by eating when I’m hungry! I also don’t lose all reason and inhibition - I’m grumpy, I know why I’m grumpy, I might be a bit impatient and snappier than usual but I never start swearing at people! That is inexcusable.

Has he had his blood sugar checked?

It's totally unacceptable for you to have to manage it

I genuinely have some blood sugar issues as well as hunger often being a trigger for hemiplegic attacks so I get most definately hangry but God knows I'm a bloody adult so I have to manage it and not expect my DP to do it

And certainly it's not a get out card for bad behaviour

On the genuine odd occasion like I'm dealing with the kids and it's unexpected my partner will remind me I need to eat but certainly not because I've been an ass to him

He needs to stop being a man child and get his crap together , if he gets hangry he needs to learn to eat properly

I’ve just started reading ‘The blood sugar diet’ by Michael Mosley and he talks about a guy who was prediabetic, this guy was irritable, moody, his kids called him ‘angry Dad’. By changing his diet, he reversed his potential diabetes and his mood stabilised.

What kinds of foods does your DH eat? Loads of carbs? He might find he improves if he switches to HFLC. He might just be using this as an excuse to be an arse to you though..

My dd gets hangry, it’s almost like pmt but on a much much shorter cycle (every 4-5 hours rather than once a month)
She gets it from her dad.