To think this is being used as an insult?

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More and more frequently I am seeing people on here use the phrase "do you normally suffer with anxiety?" to something that the majority are seeing as an over reaction on the OP's part and always after basically handing the posters arse to them about what a drama queen/whimp they are being.

What fresh mumsnet hell is this? When did it become OK to use someone's mental health as a snide insult?

Of course determining whether or not an anxiety disorder is exacerbating a situation can be helpful but that is not why I am seeing this question being asked, it's almost like a take on the classic mumsnet one liners "did you mean to be so rude" etc, that clique type behaviour that inevitably ends up being twisted into bullying by the more cuntish clique members.

I'm with you OP. I've seen it trotted out in the way you mean.

A lot of people come here to ask questions, most times I’ve seen others get someone to drag people into an argument or saying they are overreacting
For all they kno the person asking a question could have tears tripping their face in despair feeling suicidal and instead of offering advice, sit making fun of them.
Quite sad really, nobody overacts it’s just how they feel at the moment

I think we need to draw the line between genuinely asking and faux asking with the intent to undermine instead of defending what is on the part of many posters I've seen very intentional bullying.

I have no issue with calling out someone who is being a drama queen and it doesn't take a genius to spot them but why undermine the very thing they are undermining to do it? The concern certainly isn't with them trivialising mental health illness, with leads me to conclude that the main concern is getting a good insult in, belittling someone else to make yourself feel big and having no concern at all for the stigma you are creating as a result.

Ciao, no an anxiety disorder would not explain that behaviour, I know plenty of drama queens who are always overreacting but have absolutely no mental health issues whereas I had my first panic attack at 10 and my latest was yesterday and I always behave incredibly calmly in stressful situations. Stereotyping the ways in which anxious people deal with stress is part of the problem.

I realise that I am getting rantly at this point, maybe it's my anxiety causing me to overreact but people with an anxiety disorder don't always behave in the way they have been historically portrayed, I don't flap around and breathe into a paper bag and yell about how there was an on lead dog who walked as close as ten feet to my precious delicate child. I am the type of person that calmly deals with genuinely stressful, emotional, emergency situations calmly and sometimes after the fact I'll have a panic attack but I can be having a panic attack and the people in the room with me wouldn't even know. The people who deal with genuine anxiety problems don't deserve to be ridiculed for the sake of insulting people who wouldn't last a day in our shoes.

I think we need to draw the line between genuinely asking and faux asking with the intent to undermine instead of defending what is on the part of many posters I've seen very intentional bullying.

I agree with you, OP. But I think the difference is obvious, and the person doing the 'asking' looks like a snide, awful person to everyone reading. You can imagine how toxic they must be in real life.