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Column · 05/08/2018 22:12

Hi, this is a difficult one for me to write, but I'm asking for help out of desperation.

The man next door is driving me absolutely mad. He is about 6o years old and was already living there when I moved in. The best way I can describe him is that he is a hoarder/loner. I also think he may have mental health problems.

The house was scruffy when I first moved here but not bad enough to put me off buying. The garden was the same, with bits of old furniture laying around. However 20 years down the line the house is falling down around him and the garden is a jungle. The house is mainly covered by foliage from trees and shrubs and is barely visible now.

He's always been friendly enough over the years but tends very much to keep himself to himself. He'll say hello if he really has to but will quickly dart off to avoid any further conversation. He doesn't speak to any other neighbours at all.

We both have detached properties (luckily). What has been happening though over the past couple of years is that I've noticed that every single day, starting about 5.30 am right throughout the day until gone midnight he is pouring bucket after bucket of liquid, (I assume it's water but don't really know), down his outside drain at the side of his property. (I don't know if he has any other outside drains, it's impossible to see). He must throw it down with such force as the noise is so loud.

The reason this is getting to me is the fact that this drain is located right next to my bedroom window (bungalow). I am not well at the moment and have been spending a lot of time in bed recently which is another reason I am getting annoyed. Yesterday, I decided to count how many times he poured liquid down the drain. In the space of two hours and 20 minutes he poured over 100 buckets down it. This literally goes on all day long with only maybe, a couple of hours break.

A few times I have heard him over the years trying to unblock the main sewer pipe with rods or something. I'm starting to now wonder if he has a problem with his plumbing indoors. I have noticed a bad intermittent smell coming from his property over the years. I might be wrong but it smells like manure. However, since this really hot weather the smell has increased and I'm now wondering if he has a working toilet. Whenever I've sat out in my back garden over the last few weeks the smell has at times been so strong and so unpleasant I've nearly vomited and had to go indoors to escape it.

What can I do? I don't want to cause this man any more problems than he already has but the smell and the non-stop noise with his drain are making me more ill than I already am. Who can I report this to, if anyone? Thank you.

OP posts:
laptopdisaster · 09/08/2018 17:29

Social services, use the words 'vulnerable adult' 'concerned he may not have capacity' and they'll come out and do an assessment. eventually.

PurpleWithRed · 09/08/2018 17:33

Absolutely call social services safeguarding team - the state of his home indicates he's at risk of harm through self-neglect. You'll find a Safeguarding number on your local authority's website. Also echo Environmental Health might be a good call.

Nanny0gg · 09/08/2018 17:34

On the chance that it's urine not water, that shouldn't be going down the drain. Why aren't environmental health interested in that?

Seen any rats, OP?

BitOutOfPractice · 09/08/2018 17:34

Building Regs violations are, I believe, under the remit of Building Control

keyboardkate · 09/08/2018 17:35

Are any other neighbours affected by this, anyone living on the other side of him?

Or are you the only person affected?

Jaxhog · 09/08/2018 17:35

EH will only be interested if you see a rat!

Call the Water Board. They won't like unknown substances going into their drain.

Column · 09/08/2018 17:39

ApolloandDaphne, that's a great idea. I'll do that as soon as I can get through to the water board in the morning. Thanks.

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LighthouseSouth · 09/08/2018 18:13

As a Londoner, if we didn't see the odd rat we'd think the apocalypse was coming.

But if the water board don't take action, I'll be very surprised.

Methe · 09/08/2018 18:18

It it a gully drain for grey water ( rainwater run off or washing up water) or a proper sewer? If he’s pouring urine or fences in to the gully drain it absolutely is an environmental health problem.

Column · 09/08/2018 18:27

The drain is located next to either his kitchen or bathroom.

Have seen rats occasionally over the years but just put down rat killer as and when.

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Column · 09/08/2018 18:51

Now that environmental health have stated they are unable to help I will contact the next organisation. Not 100% sure yet if that will be water board or council safeguarding team.

I didn't want to contact all these organisations in one morning without waiting for a response from each of them. The last thing I would want is for all these organisations to turn up mob-handed at neighbour's door at the same time. I am giving each organisation the time to get back to me and let me know their position with regards to help they can offer before contacting the next one. It took environmental health 4 days to get back to me to say there is nothing they can do.

Please do not think I am ignoring any of the suggestions you wonderful mumsnetters have made, it's just taking a little longer than I thought it would.

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LighthouseSouth · 09/08/2018 20:49

OP one reason id go for water board is that if your neighbour finds out you called a safeguarding team, he may well be furious and you've got to live there.

It's a much more personal thing than calling about water and drainage.

LighthouseSouth · 16/08/2018 16:12

hi Column

hope you're feeling better

hope also you had some luck with the Water Board.

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