Not looking forward to own wedding

[ItsLikeRain]

I know that I am being U, but I'm just hoping some other people will share some similar experiences.

My wedding is next week, and I'm really not looking forward to it. As we've gone along it's become something that I've realised is not what I want. Nothing horribly dramatic has happened, but it's all outside and it looks very likely to rain, I've got nowhere near being healthier so I'll actually look good in my dress, I've spent all of my time and money on it and I don't really think it will make it much better.

I know all that really matters is my DP and I'll be so happy to marry him, but AIBU to feel like a fool for wasting so much money on something which won't go as planned (weather) and I don't really want?

Cancel it and elope!

Is it too late to cancel things or change plans? It would be a shame to be forever disappointed

Do you actually want to marry your df as this is a separate issue?

There are sooo many brides like you who have grand plans for dieting and it doesn’t work out. The pressure is horrendous. If you think this is your main issue and you are deflecting have a quick google and some of the stories are really helpful.

Most importantly speak to you fiancée he is the person you are meant to be in a partnership with.

The wedding isn't the important bit. I didn't lose any weight before my wedding either and guess what .. i looked bloody gorgeous, and you will too. If your dress doesnt fit, get thee to a seamstress. Last minute email to all the guests to remind them to bring umbrellas. Embrace it! Have fun and remember what a wedding is - to celebrate the union of two people who want to spend the rest of their lives together.

Check your location don't mind, then buy a few cheap outdoor gazebos and task some friends or family with putting them up. They cost about £50 each, so it'll be cheaper than trying to hire big marquees. As long as there's shelter you'll all be ok. And it probably won't rain then.

Put your dress on, do your hair and look in the mirror. If you don't like it, get out and buy a new one. A dress that suits you in its cut will look fantastic, you don't need to spend a fortune.

If you think you're paying for things that won't matter, now's the time to see if you can cancel them to make the wedding both simpler and cheaper. Check with your fiance first obviously!

What are the other problems, let's fix them?!

Realised my phrasing was useless there, the weight loss is not the main issue, more a contributing factor. I've spent all my time and money on the wedding and feel its not vastly better than it would have been if it was much simpler!

Is it too late to cancel things or change plans? It would be a shame to be forever disappointed
It is, and this is what I'm worried about tbh, that it will be fine, but I'll always be a little disappointed.

Do you actually want to marry your df as this is a separate issue? Definitely want to marry him, but feel I could have been just as happy with an elopement! Shame I realised so late...

Thank you Golden Fleece that is lovely, and exactly the sort of encouragement I need I guess.

One of the best weddings I ever went to was a cousin of DP's. We had been to several that year and got very fed up of waiting an hour plus to move on from the church to the reception due to photos being done at each and every one.

Just as we left the church after DP's cousin's ceremony, the heavens opened, and I mean torrential, rain drops bouncing off the ground sort of thing. We all trooped off to the hotel for the reception and the wedding party had all their photos inside whilst the guests mingled in the bar - lovely and relaxed. Fret not about the weather - it's the British Isles - you can't book good weather. Remember photographers actually prefer cloudy weather as that way people aren't squinting in the sunlight.
I'm sure you'll have a great day