to take a 6 year old to a scan?

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Having scans every other week to check that baby is growing ok. Totally precautionary and unlikely that the growth will be an issue, fundal measurement has been rising as expected, it is a 'just in case' scan and unlikely to find anything bad. I've had two anomaly scans and don't need anymore so almost 100% an anomaly won't be found. All of this is because of an echogenic bowel that has now disappeared.

I have DPs daughter on the day of the scan. DP is at work and I have nobody to look after her. No babysitter and family members don't live nearby. Would I be completely unreasonable to take her to the scan with me? Are they likely to say no and tell me to come back without her?

Not sure what to do...

@Norma27 thank you. After three 12 week scans that have ended badly I'm really hoping that this is the case for me too. Scan is on Wednesday, will happily return for an update! x

Good luck! You have made it to 28 weeks so looking very good now. Looking forward to the update xx

My DD had to come to scans with me as genuinely no other option. One of them was bad news as they had to tell me no heartbeat.

She started school about half way through my pregnancy with DS so that made it easier.

Some people really don’t have other options. DD even had to come with us to hospital when I went into labour, DH took her home once my midwife arrived to takeover and then they came back once baby was born.

I have to have regular scans (every 2-4 weeks throughout) due to a pre-existing health condition. My hospital has recently stopped allowing children into scans, and they are extremely strict about it, no exceptions at all based on what they’ve told me and the many arguments I’ve witnessed in the waiting room. So yes, definitely check beforehand!

I took DD1 to my growth scans. I had no choice they were on my days off from work so I have no childcare. No one else could have her so I had to weigh up what was best growth scan with a toddler or no growth scan. I went for the scan. Some people really really have no alternative so you have to do what you have to do. I'm very very sorry for everyone who has received bad news at scan but you are unable to avoid babies at the maternity unit I was at so 1 extra child would not add or take away any distress.

I took my then 3 year old dd to my gender scan. She loved it, she really bonded with my tummy after

Our hospital has a children's creche for anyone having outpatients appointments. I think it was free to use for scans.. Might be worth checking if hospital have one

No you cannot take her. Just because you’re not anticipating bad news... what if someone else gets bad news and has to come and out and see a child in the waiting room?

What if the child was sat waiting outside with a grandparent or aunt? Your comment is just silly.

OP best of luck today. Hope all is well.

I'm not a fan of kids at scans (having had bad news myself at one) but in your situation I would if the hospital allows it. As you say you will have had a heartbeat check the day before, they are precautionary scans and the chances of a new issue being picked up when you have been having frequent scans are remote.

Last pregnancy we had to take ds to our 20 wk scans as we had no childcare. There was a serious issue picked up and the situation was far from ideal but it was what it was. This pregnancy we have managed to avoid it so far but like you I have to have regular monitoring scans and depending on when the next one falls I might have to take him.

Our hospital allows children and every time I've been there have been children in the waiting room.

Hope it all goes well x

I wouldn’t take a child to the dating or anomaly scan because I have been the person receiving bad news, twice and I definitely wouldn’t have wanted my DC there. But a routine regular growth scan? I don’t really see an issue.

Call and ask. I think iutd be nice for her, help her to feel involved!

I would suggest having a plan in place as a just in case measure. I had to have routine growth scans. One scan picked up an issue that meant that I needed to be admitted into the antenatal ward straight away and monitored very closely for the rest of the pregnancy. Everything worked out fine in the end.

It was extremely scary when the routine growth scans suddenly became an urgent admittance, steroids being prescribed and the on call consultant rushing in. If I’d had a child with me then I would have needed to find child care. I’m not suggesting you don’t take your stepdaughter just maybe have a plan as to what you’ll do if you need more intense monitoring.