We’re on holiday in the uk. Been here a week. It’s my birthday tomorrow and we were in the local shop a little while ago, there was wrapping paper by the till so I asked if he needed any (he is forgetful) and he said no, he hadn’t got me anything (with a look of horror on his face). Probably because this is not the first birthday/mother’s day/Christmas this has happened with and he knows how much it upsets me.
His excuse, he couldn’t think of anything since I gave up alcohol and chocolate a few months ago!! I do have a card though by all accounts.
We’re not flush, but £20 wouldn’t be an issue.
He is 100% not joking, and as I said he has form. Im actually totally devastated and can’t stop crying! On the one hand I feel selfish and like a spoiled child, on the other I feel completely taken for granted and like I don’t matter a jot.
The teenagers were horrified and have dragged him to the tesco express (but turns out they didn’t get anything either, assuming he’d do it), and the 10year old thinks it’s not the end of the world and I should get over it (which is really tempting me to pretend I have nothing for her birthday next month).
I always make such an effort for everyone else all year, and a thoughtful token was all I expected, book, cheap earrings, nail polish, anything would have done.
So wibu to ram whatever crap he brings back where the sun doesn’t shine? Apart from the fact there’s nothing he could get that’s even remotely gift like, it seems pointless now I’ve had to point it out.
Also, I just don’t know how to deal with it, as I now don’t want to do what we had planned for tomorrow as I can’t even be in the same room as him I’m so angry and upset.