To take a zero tolerance stand on drugs

[Metoodear]

Ds is 18
He had a pt job and has just gotten a traineeship at a really good place 14 -k a year

However we’re very concerned he’s smoking weed

And their have been a few things that have lead us to this my ex somoked and sold weed ended up in jail for two years I also feel it was very behind the reason he didn’t bother with ds when he was small

So I am very anti drugs
Also da has a MH issue and takes anti depressants

So I told dh if we ever get evidence that he’s been smoking or taking drugs he’s out I have little ones and can’t stand for it

Not only is he putting his traineeship at risk as it requires a DBs he’s putting his MH at stake as he’s not 100% with out drugs thrown into the mix

Obviously not unreasonable. Is anyone arguing to the contrary?

I think that sounds fine and sensible, but you need to think about whether you are creating at atmosphere that enables your DS to talk honestly and openly with you. If he knows he'll just be turfed out of you find out what he's already up to then you both lose.

Your house, your rules. I would just ensure he’s fully aware.

Well I think it’s a bit extreme to chuck your child out for smoking pot, most children experiment and his life would be shit as a homeless person.

I also think it’s best not to draw these hard lines because who knows how you’ll feel when it actually happens?