Over the years I've met lots of people I thought were friends. I've realised I've just been a pushover. Many friendships were me texting first all the time asking to meet up too go for a meal cinema shop etc as soon as I stopped texting the friendships ended. One friend I'd known for years always you to meet up to take kids places but she is now pregnant and I've tried to tex to arrange meet ups and such and I've just been dropped. A few school mum friends I always talk to have helped out with childcare lots of times. One of them I thought was a friend a gave her a few things outgrown toys and clothes as a favour after that wasn't interested at all would just text almost daily if I had this or that but I didn't give her anything more I'm no longer useful. I've noticed that alot of people aren't friends and they talk to you if they need or want something from you anyone else find this true?