Ds birthday today. He's 10. Had a party and then went back to my parents house to open his presents.
For the last few weeks the ex has asked what ds would like. He's asked myself and ds. I've given him a few ideas - all he said he would get. I've looked back at our messages and he's even said he's got these gifts when he hadn't.
Now my child is not spoilt in anyway. I can't say I have spent a lot on him this year and he doesn't get toys etc through the year apart from on his birthday and Christmas as I simply can't afford it.
This is not about how much is spent.
Ds opened the gifts from his dad and yet again, they were nothing that ds suggested. 2 Lego sets but not the ones he had asked for - ds and myself told him the ones he wanted which were not expensive. He got him a wallet - which he didn't ask for and could tell he wasn't impressed with. And a watch. Again not very impressed with but ds was obviously thankful non the less.
This happens every year wether it's Christmas or birthdays. He just puts no effort in and it's sort of like he does it on purpose but I can't put my finger on why.
All ds asked for were 2 specific Lego sets and a PS4
Game. I trusted the ex to get these and he got none of them.
At Christmas he asked what to get ds again so i sent half of ds Christmas list (about 5/6things) His dad never got them. He got him a couple of bits that in all honesty....were crap and nothing that ds enjoyed. He actually believed in Santa last year and was worried he had been bad because Santa only brought him 3 things and they weren't on his list.
Money isn't an issue for the ex. He's nearly 40 and still lives with his mum and dad and doesn't pay them any rent etc! He's in a good paid job.
He gives me maintenance so I feel the reason he doesn't get ds whah he asks for is because he feels I should seen as he pays me maintenance?
From now on I 100% make sure this doesn't happen again. When he asks (that's the part I don't get, he asks what to get ds then doesn't get him it!) Ill just simply say 'it's up to you' and I'll make sure ds gets the things he asks for. Which again, isn't anything extravagant.
Aibu to be miffed? Or should maintenance cover the presents and he should get ds nothing for his bday?
I know where ex got the Lego sets from also so am I wrong to go and exchange them for the ones he actually wanted?
I really don't want this post to come across as he's a spoilt child etc as it's not that. Ds was grateful and thankful for every gift he received and he's had an amazing day.
I just don't understand why my ex would ask what he wants and then not get him it.....