To hate bonding through bitching

[Wishfulmakeupping]

This is happening with second group of women for second year in a row now.
First group group of neighbours wine nights etc got on well until they all started bitching about someone else and I not only didn’t join in but also it was pretty shitty of them. I was basically out of the group from then on.
Now with some of the school mums I’m on the outside now as I refuse to join in the bitching session so I thinking I’m now the boring one and probably fodder for the bitching at this point :(
I really dislike bonding through bitching it seems to be becoming more common than ever?!

Completely agree with you and have been in the same position, I just don't get it. I suspect a it of the time people don't even think they are being bitchy, but if you've nothing 'nice' to say then why resort to bitching about another human?

*said it was shitty

This is it apples I just don’t get it 🤔

Completely agree. I just won't.

ABSOLUTELY agree with you and have done since school days. Unfortunately, I’ve tended to notice that this makes me the odd one out and quite “un-popular”. To be honest though, with friends like that who needs enemies? At least you have a clear conscience.

I run so fast from this sort of thing!! If I'm on the periphery, that's just fine by me.... YANBU!

I’m definitely ‘unpopular’ for not joining in with the bitching action.
And I’ve been pulled up on it too..’wishful why do you feel the need to be so diplomatic all the time’
They couldn’t accept that I didn’t mind the person they were happily slagging off

One of my favourite people in the world (around 60 years older than I) never did coffee mornings. My mother would invite her and she just wouldn't turn up. Being so much younger and inquisitive, I wanted to get to the bottom of it. She explained that she had realised, shortly after getting married, that women get together in groups to 'say things' about other women. She decided after attending a few coffee mornings that she just wouldn't go to anymore. And she didn't. She was insanely popular.

Oh dear, Wishful, that’s ridiculous pulling you up for being “diplomatic”! Ugh.

In my early twenties after spending an evening watching a few films with a group of girls who did nothing but slag off everyone we mutually knew or the actresses physical features or way of speaking etc, I eventually laughed and jokingly said, “gosh, are you lot always so bitchy?! C’mon there must be something else to chat about eh?”

Not long afterwards, “friend” who was the meanest met up with me to see a film at the Cinema and then declared she’d already seen it with all of our mutual friends from the previous night. I looked puzzled and said if I’d have known I just would have come along with the others. She patted my arm and said, “I know hun, but we’ve realised that you don’t really cope well in a group setting. I didn’t want to be mean and have you miss out entirely. You’re best on a one to one.”

Ouch shady what a hurtful thing to do to you :(
heart she sounds awesome

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