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(Extremely petty) AIBU to think I got scammed out of my share of pie?

30 replies

AgeingArtemis · 04/08/2018 15:52

I'm on holiday visiting close family members, 4 adults in total including me, no kids. The family member whose house it is made a fruit pie for dessert, but I was already full- and I have a good appetite! Think starter, main, loads of cheese AND pudding for lunch AND dinner of every day we have been here (not complaining, it's absolutely delicious but it's quite a lot of food)

Anyway I have problems with binge eating (they don't know this and I suppose it's not really relevant anyway) so I'm trying to listen to my body without depriving myself. So seeing as I felt comfortably full I declined pudding and asked that my slice was saved for later, as I didn't want to miss out on the lovely homemade pie. Even delaying the pleasure due to the sensible reason of feeling too full was difficult and felt like a positive step.

There was plenty of pie to go round, and the other 3 ate about 60% of it. Later in the afternoon when I went to eat "my" slice of pie (not all of what was left, but a decent chunk) they came along and split the remaining pie into 4 equal pieces, so essentially they have had 2 slices and I've only had one!

I know I'm being unreasonable due to my food control issues, but AIBU to think it's a little unfair regardless? The pie was delicious and my slice unsatisfyingly small so now I have the rage Grin

OP posts:
PiggyPlumPie · 04/08/2018 15:55

No, you had your chance! Leftovers are fair game Grin

TwoBlueShoes · 04/08/2018 15:56

You snooze, you lose. 😆

SisterNotCisTerf · 04/08/2018 15:59

Delicious pie will never sit long, I agree with others, you snooze, you lose! Grin next time, take your share when it’s being served and then put it away in the fridge, behind big jugs of milk.

SilageMarner · 04/08/2018 16:00

Look at it this way - it’s saved calories you can now spend on some other delicious treat!

GettingAwayWithIt · 04/08/2018 16:01

Not unreasonable at all, you should have got a 20% sized piece as the other three had already had, with the remaining 20% piece being offered to whoever out of the four of you won a game of Kerplunk.

AveABanana · 04/08/2018 16:07

Finders keepers

abilockhart · 04/08/2018 16:17
Hmm
lilcolibri · 04/08/2018 16:24

If you're on holiday with 4 other people and this is what you're complaining about, it must be going VERY well :)

PeckhamPauline · 04/08/2018 16:27

The food is offered during the meal. If you choose not to have it then, it doesn't mean you are entitled to it later.

BlankTimes · 04/08/2018 16:29

You were too full to eat any pie, then later you had some, you've not missed out.

Are you going to provide the hosts with a delicious meal every one out of 4 meals in return for their generous hospitality? Whoever cooked all of that twice a day in this heat deserves a medal. They must be worn out.

happypoobum · 04/08/2018 16:29

You should have taken it, wrapped it in a napkin and popped it in your bag to have later whilst reading a book in your room.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 04/08/2018 16:32

Heh, YANBU but you won't get anyone else you're staying with to agree with you!
Yes, you should have taken your portion when it was first there and then saved it for later. Never mind, you'll know for next time!

minipie · 04/08/2018 16:32

You made a strategic error in not dividing "your slice" from "other leftover pie". You should have cut off your slice at the time and put it on a separate plate. Though that does risk looking a bit dickish. But less risk of losing your pie.

pictish · 04/08/2018 16:34

Ach well...that’s the way it goes. You can’t turn down and reserve delicious pie...it’s up to the baker what happens to it. You missed your opportunity, sorry.

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SilageMarner · 04/08/2018 16:43

Gosh, sunshine and roses really living up to her name with that post!!

DiegoMadonna · 04/08/2018 16:52

Gosh, sunshine and roses really living up to her name with that post!!

Lol! Right?

Anyway OP while I was reading I thought you were going to say someone else ate all the pie, which would have been a little mean. But the ending wasn't so bad. You got some pie.

Freshfeelings · 04/08/2018 16:52

I can understand how annoying it must have been, but I think caring enough to make a post about it tips into being part of your eating disorder. Well done for declining food when you felt full, it's an important thing to become aware of again if you binge (I'm the same).

Inertia · 04/08/2018 16:53

You should have taken your slice at the time, then declared yourself too full to do it justify so wrapped the plate of pie in film and put it in the fridge.

Doilooklikeatourist · 04/08/2018 16:57

As others have said. But with an addition
Cut yourself a portion for later
lick it
Cover it , and keep for when you’re ready
HTH

WorraLiberty · 04/08/2018 16:59

Think starter, main, loads of cheese AND pudding for lunch AND dinner of every day we have been here

Think about that ^^ for a second and forget about the tiny bit of pie you didn't have.

Have you had professional help regarding your binge eating and food control issues? If not, perhaps a word with your GP might help you see things more clearly.

hannnnnnnxo · 04/08/2018 17:02

I don’t think they were being rude as it doesn’t sound like your original portion of the pie was actually cut? So it would make sense to just slice the remaining evenly between all 4 of you, rather than you having the majority and them having a little bit. I suppose it would be different if your serving was already cut and placed aside as then someone would be eating your leftovers.

WatcherintheRye · 04/08/2018 17:03

I'm afraid this is what ds's family used to be like, when his Mum (who was, among many things, a brilliant cook) was alive. There were various strategies which family members would employ - in a lighthearted way Smile - to ensure they ring fenced their second, and even third helpings of various puddings, of which there was always a choice of at least two!

I, on the other hand, am assiduous about doling out equal portions to dh and my 3 ds, and if they don't want their pudding at the time, they can have their share whenever they want, if it survives the grazing of a peckish dh to whom anything in the cupboard or fridge is deemed to be unclaimed and thus fair game!

YANBU, op. you were well and truly stitched up!

hannnnnnnxo · 04/08/2018 17:03

This probably won’t make you feel better but I don’t think they were being hostile or intentionally mugging you off

WatcherintheRye · 04/08/2018 17:06

Not ds, dh's family!