AIBU To leave a WhatsApp group chat?

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I’m not a mummy through choice however all my friends are (I’ve nothing against kids, they’re just not for me). One of my friends set up a WhatsApp group chat to organise a girly night out however the group chat now seems to have turned into a mummy group chat about meeting up with the kids and sharing pictures of them at the park etc. AIBU to leave? I feel rude and don’t want them to be offended but I also don’t appreciate constant messages all day every day and especially being woken up super early at weekends while they discuss what they are doing with their little darlings today. Help! How can I say I’m leaving but not offend them?

Can you mute the chat? And dip in every now and then?

Just mute the chat then you can check it when you please

Just mute the conversation. S
Glance at it occasionally and you won't miss anything.

Either mute it or say something like "I'm "Just tidying up all my WhatsApp groups and it doesn't look like I contribute much to this one! Hope to catch up with you soon." Then leave.

I'd just leave that chat, don't bother explaining why.

If you want to you can turn off notifications for the group chat. That's what I do. But i still periodically delete the chats and pics.

I left a Viber chat for similar reasons about 2 years ago and the person who set up the group didn't speak to me for almost a year, and to this day is still cold with me.

I have kids, but I have no interest in seeing theirs in the bath or eating their breakfast, so I feel your pain.

You've been warned!

Really telling that you are worried about offending them and for being rude when actually I think they should be thinking about how you must feel to be bombarded with all the children pics and discussion about going to the park. I would just leave the group, it doesn't sound like its now being used for the original purpose it was set up.

Probably inevitable and not intentional that it would end up this way as they have all this in common and you don't. YANBU to leave the group as its not working for you anymore. Whatsapp groups can be stressful. No need to have a drama over leaving it and stay on good terms with them.

By all means leave the group of you want to if it’s not relevant to you anymore, you don’t owe anyone any explanation. But I don’t understand how you are being woken up in the early hours by their discussions, do you never switch your phone off when going to bed? If you don’t (and I’m not sure why) why haven’t you put it on silence? Can you not mute the Whatsapp group?

As others have said, just mute it! No reason for it to be waking you up. Does that mean any time anyone messages you for any reason it makes a sound? Even if you need your phone on for some reason, you can turn individual apps notifications off so they make no sound.

Seems like you want to have a dramatic flounce rather than simply muting the chat. If you don't want to stay in touch with any of these people then go for it. Otherwise it might be more tactful to simply turn off what's app notification sounds.

you can just archive it

I felt very awkward about a group chat at work, because it excluded one specific person, and I didn't want to come across as all preachy by objecting or leaving, and I didn't want to participate either, so I just archived it. That worked best. You can still look occasionally, like once a week or something

I can't imagine a world where anyone would be bothered about you leaving a group chat, set up just for the purpose of sorting a night out.

Just leave and tell them to text you when it's sorted.

Just say to your friend you are leaving the group because its constantly pinging with meet up for the kids, but if there is another girly night out make sure to let you know as you had a great time last time.

You still have so many unread messages if you mute it. Best to leave the chat and if they want to arrange an outimg they can message you separately. I like Oysterbabes response.

Just mute it op

I muted mine.

Weird that it wakes you up? So any texts / what’s apps wake you up?
I’d be sorting out that, not blaming at what’s app group!

Thanks for the advice guys 😊 I’m frequently on call at work so have to have my phone on volume through the night. I wasn’t aware that I could mute a chat (I’m fairly new to WhatsApp) I’ll try muting it and see how I get on and if not I’ll just explain that I’m leaving and give my reasons and hope nobody gets offended! Broken wing I like your response, I’ll try that if the muting doesn’t work as like SandyY2K says I will still have loads of unread messages

VimFuego101 no drama or ‘flouncing’ here my love... just don’t want to offend my friends by telling them that I have no interest in seeing constant photos of their little people 😊

You’re over-thinking it, OP.

I know this sort of thing is social death amongst younger people but if the group no longer has an interest for you, just leave - no explanation needed. That’s what I do when I’ve got the information I need from a chat.