Argument

[MrsG841]

So yesterday I was at the in laws. I was in the pool with my DS and nephew. Nephew was kicking my son so I told him off. Hubby aunt started shouting at me calling me disgusting and nasty for telling him off. I obviously argued back that he was kicking my son so I have a right to say something. Aunt then proceeded to threaten my kids by saying in future she wo take it out on them. We are now not on speaking terms at all. My parents think I should be bigger person and clear the air. Aibu to think she is the one in the wrong therefore should be apologising to me!

She sounds like a dick. YANBU

Well in future kindly refuse any invites.

Is he the Golden Boy?

It depends on how you told him off. A short "don't do that" fine, anything more it should have been handled by the person responsible for the child.

If she's calling you disgusting and nasty I would guess that you said more than that, or there's some pre existing issue between the two of you.

Not until now. Thing is she is such a hypocrite as she has moaned to me about his behaviour so why all of a sudden is it an issue that I make a comment

I had told him no he stopped then within seconds went to do it again so I said "don't you dare" my sil was there and agreed with me that I wasn't in the wrong

What exactly did you say?

I'm assuming SIL is his mum? If she says it was fine it was fine

Just because they are (extended) family, doesn’t make them nice people. Don’t see them, they are a bad influence.

Six to one, half a dozen to the other.

If someone said to my DC "don't you dare" it'd rile me to be honest.

It then sounds like you had an equal spat?

Her saying she'd take things out on your DC is nuts and so I'd avoid. Certainly wouldn't be apologising.

Does she not like you?

We have never had an issue until now and I have been with Dh 15 years

I would be fuming and def not apologising! You were well in your right to tell him off.

So a grown woman is going to take things out on your kids and you are supposed to apologise?

Hell no.

I get its awkward for the family but to stoop that low threaten children is dispicable