I have had enough. mumsnet has many good qualities but i have grown tired of seeing how people on here hwo have legitimate issues and real struggles are being written off as trolls and not given a chance to prove themselves
twice tonight have my posts regarding struggling with my fears i may have been sexually assaulted as a child and the effect it is having on my health- (i already am in treatment for complex ptsd, social anxiety and personality disorders caused by years of DV, and childhood verbal emotional and pyhsical abuse) been deleted and i have been accused of being a troll. no reason given.
and then a post in mental health subforum on here has been deleted.
i understand why MN has to take action against people who post racist things or who make up sob stories for money but if someone is just reaching out to MN as a sounding board and needing advice, they are harming nobody.
we are all adults on here, we are all capable of walking away and setting boundaries or choosing what posts we read and repsond to on here. we are not delicate fragile flowers who are incapable of deciding for ourselves who is a genuine poster or not.
if people are upset by a thread they can move on. no real harm done, maybe a few seconds of wasted time reading.
quite often the people who are posting and reaching out are vulnerable and hurting. we are more likely to sufffer from the effects of being disbelieved, as this can risk us being retraumatised. i do agree we al responsible fo roursleves and if posters are at risk of harming themsleves they cannot hold MN responsible.
i just ask for a little compassion, that's all. for these trollhunters to consider that maybe some of us who seem a little "off" are coming across this way because we are not neurotypical- we have mental health issues and that can sometimes cause our posting style to come across as weird.
the mental health sub in particular should be one place where people can post about "difficult" subjects. not all of us have life figured out and some of us have questions
when i asked that i thought i had been sexually assaulted by another child when at school, i was asking honestly for opinions, because i am someone who has a tendancy to doubt myself and be unsure of whether my experiences and feelings are valid or not? i was reading a thread in AIBU about someone having experiences of this and my brain was full of memories and questions, my therapist is away at the moment.
i simply needed a listening ear. i really am glad for the good times i have had in mumsnet of being a lurker of several months and the posts which i have enjoyed reading. i am not trying to slate the site. but i do find all this erasing posts and "whitewshing" everything very irritating.