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Parking... I have a diagram!

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LanguageAsAFlower · 03/08/2018 20:49

I received an email from letting agents this morning complaining about parking that isn't me!

We live off the road, behind neighbour A who also rents from the same people. Our neighbours(B) don't have a car so as there's room for two cars easily on the drive DP and I both park there. (Have spoken to neighbours B about this and they are all good, they know if they get a car then one of us will street park) the driveway is nothing to do with Neighbour A as they have their own drive and parking.

Yesterday Neighbour B had a guest that parked behind DP's car for about 45 mins. Now that means they blocked us in for that time, but I thought it doesn't really matter as I can just ask them to move if I need to get out.

Had an email from the letting agents this morning saying that they had a report of a car parked blocking the entrance to two properties and obscuring the kitchen window of Neighbour A. Could we ensure that we don't park anywhere that does this. I replied saying it wasn't us, that it was Neighbour B. They replied saying they don't manage the property of Neighbour B so that's why they emailed us.

For context this is the 3rd email in as many months complaining about inconsequential or ridiculous things from this Neighbour A. (Last one was that I didn't bring my bin back in on bin day until 10pm - which was when I got home)

AIBU to tell the letting agents to stop bothering me with this when they have no evidence that it is me?

Further to this AIBU to pop next door and nicely say if they have a problem to knock on the door or speak to us first?

We're an approachable nice (I think) family. I don't get why all the complaints to the letting agent.

Parking... I have a diagram!
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UpstartCrow · 03/08/2018 20:51

They replied saying they don't manage the property of Neighbour B so that's why they emailed us.

email them back and complain about the business next door to them Grin

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LanguageAsAFlower · 03/08/2018 20:52

Ha! Yes. Upstart brilliant idea. It is that ridiculous isn't it? Hmm

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Maelstrop · 03/08/2018 20:55

Email letting agent, tell them to stop harassing (make sure you use that word) you. Knock on neighbour A and say if it isn’t directly affecting them, they need to stop harassing you via the agent. They’re being ridiculous.

lljkk · 03/08/2018 20:56

Gold Star for the diagram.
I'd ask N-A to knock on my door in future. However, they have probably decided you're unapproachable, I mean you must be, with those weird bin habits after all Wink, so I wouldn't expect any better decisions from them in future.

EmUntitled · 03/08/2018 20:58

I would ignore the email from the letting agent. If they have had a complaint from neighbour A it's probably easier for them to say "we have emailed and dealt with this" rather than having a fuss from A.

I would speak to A and ask them to come to you directly. However this might open the flood gates to constant complaints about minor issues!

EggysMom · 03/08/2018 20:59

How much parking does Neighbour A have - are they perhaps jealous that you get to park two cars plus what they think is a third, guest car?

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LanguageAsAFlower · 03/08/2018 21:02

@EggysMom ...this could be it, but they have two cars on their driveway and the road although busy-ish isn't that hard to find parking on..

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LanguageAsAFlower · 03/08/2018 21:04

I think the thing that really gets me is the going through the letting agent, just speak to people!

But also part of the problem is the letting agent entertaining this sort of rubbish. Speak to your neighbours or call the council if you have an actual nuisance!

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ShumpaLumpa · 03/08/2018 21:20

What does Neighbour A expect the driveway to be used for if s/he doesn't want a car in it obscuring her window? Confused

KitKat1985 · 03/08/2018 21:23

Lovely diagram OP.

I think you need to go and speak to neighbour A and ask why they keep making these petty complaints. They sound slightly unhinged. I couldn't care a less when my neighbours bring their bins in!

mickeysminnie · 03/08/2018 21:29

Personally I wouldn't speak to them directly. They are obviously bat shit and who would want to draw that on themselves. Email the agent pointing out the ridiculousness of the complaint and tell them that you will complain about their harassment of you to your landlord if they don't stop acting on spurious complaints.

BoneyBackJefferson · 03/08/2018 21:31

Could the problem be that where Neighbour B friends parked is a right of way and not actually a parking space?

Imchlibob · 03/08/2018 21:32

You have the right to quiet enjoyment of the rental property. Constantly dealing with spurious moans that are nothing to do with you is detrimental to this.

Tell the agents that the complainy neighbours are clearly a bit bonkers and it is not fair for them to collude in this harassment when you are doing nothing wrong.

Jamiefraserskilt · 03/08/2018 21:34

Why are the agents moaning at you about neighbour b's parking. Once established it was not you, they should have gone back to neighbour A and said it was not their tenants. End of.
Your agents are not very worldy are they? They need to learn how to filter.

tabulahrasa · 03/08/2018 21:35

“Could the problem be that where Neighbour B friends parked is a right of way and not actually a parking space?”

Makes no difference why they don’t want someone parked there seeing as the someone doing the parking wasn’t the OP or in the OP’s house...

LotsToThinkOf · 03/08/2018 21:45

It's probably better that they go through the letting agent, at least you have a reliable witness as to the ridiculous things they are complaining about if it escalates.

Sounds like they have too much time on their hands for a start.

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LanguageAsAFlower · 03/08/2018 21:46

Could the problem be that where Neighbour B friends parked is a right of way and not actually a parking space?
The only right of way though, is to my house and I was fine with just asking them to move.

You're all right, I think I'll write a proper email to letting agents tomorrow asking them to deal properly with complainer N-A. The thing is if they are entertaining it and passing it on it only encourages them to complain more. If they told them where to go (politely) we wouldn't have this issue!

I know it sounds petty, but I hate the idea that they are sitting in their house complaining and thinking we are shit neighbours. I need to learn to give less shits.

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BoneyBackJefferson · 03/08/2018 21:49

tabulahrasa

Your right in that it makes no difference to the OP.

But it means that the neighbour has a valid point about someone parking there.

The issue isn't Neighbour A but the OP's EA who should be pointing out that it isn't the OP but the other Neighbour.

wafflyversatile · 03/08/2018 21:52

A nice neighbour (especially one that takes so much interest in you comings and goings) would just take your bin in for you if you weren't home.

DesignStatement · 03/08/2018 21:52

Tell letting agent their letters are inappropriate and harassing as where neighbour B's guests park is about as much to do with you as where Santa parks his sleigh in August is!

ToadsforJustice · 03/08/2018 21:59

Do you think that Neighbour A is pissed off with a car blocking the kitchen window than the actual parked car?

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires · 03/08/2018 21:59

OP Any chance you can lend a high sided van and park in front of the kitchen window for a week or two?, after all you need to shift some bulky things elsewhere. evil Grin

Fuzzywig · 03/08/2018 22:00

How ridiculous they don’t manage the property of neighbour B so they wrote to you, they need to write to neighbour A stating they have investigated and found that the car does not belong to you and was not a visitor to your property. Therefore they can do no more. They should then instruct neighbour A what s/he should do with further complaints

AlbertaSimmons · 03/08/2018 22:00

We live on a small development where all the owners are members of the residents' association. Association meets quarterly and about 90% of the meeting is spent discussing a) parking issues and b) bins. It must be a thing.

LlamaPyjamas · 03/08/2018 22:04

They replied saying they don't manage the property of Neighbour B so that's why they emailed us.
So every time B does something wrong they’re going to complain to you because they don’t manage B’s property? If B tips rubbish, makes noise, has a barking dog, will they complain to you because they don’t manage B’s property? I’d complain to the agent that it’s unacceptable to complain to you about things that have nothing to do with you!

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