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AIBU?

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Changemynameandhide · 03/08/2018 18:27

Aibu to care enough to want to say something?

My friend has a 2.5 year old and is due to have second baby in a few months. She is an obsessive instagrammer/facebooker. Which is fine, obviously. Her account, her choice.

But everyone cringes at the content. If I were her I’d want to know.

She is clearly quite inspired by ‘mummy bloggers’ and their so called ‘real parenting’ (she speaks of that a lot).

This weeks highlights:

  • documenting her daughters potty training with a lovely pic of a poo in the potty
  • a video clip of daughter throwing a tantrum
  • detailed description of a “poonami”. She has always talked about poonamis and it has always driven me insane!!!

I am due to have my first baby in 3 months and she delights in telling me how I need to get in the real world because parenting isn’t all “nice outfits and days out”. Quite. I let it wash over me because she doesn’t mean any harm. She finds it hilarious that the only “pregnancy photo” I’ve added is one looking half decent at a party. She reckons I’m setting myself up to a hard job of looking perfect. Again, I think this is the mummy blogger narrative.

But she really needs to stop with the content. Aibu to really seriously consider telling her that people roll their eyes at her posts and it’s all a bit daft rather than being hilarious?

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ProfessorMoody · 03/08/2018 18:34

Unfollow her if you don't like it. It's not rocket science.

she really needs to stop with the content

No, she doesn't, because it's her life and she is in control of it.

HTH.

Bambamber · 03/08/2018 18:35

Just unfollow her, who are you to tell her what she can and can't post

afrikat · 03/08/2018 18:35

Firstly I'm sure you haven't spoken to every single one of her Facebook friends so there may be people who enjoy her posts. You can't speak for everyone she knows

Secondly I think telling her that is mean and if if it bothers you just unfollow her so you don't see what she posts. It is her page, she can post whatever she wants.

If she's giving you unsolicited advice then it's fair enough to tell her that you would rather figure these things out for yourself.

It doesn't sound like you like her her much so maybe just stop being friends with her?

Changemynameandhide · 03/08/2018 18:37

Do people cease friendships the second they disagree on something???

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Changemynameandhide · 03/08/2018 18:39

At no point did I say anything to suggest I dislike her. Her comments genuinely wash over me. I’m not asking for advice on that.

But the relentless oversharing and hash tagging to solicit followers and launch a mummy blogging career of her own is frankly nauseating and I think mates owe it to each other to give each other a reality check.

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HildaZelda · 03/08/2018 18:39

To be honest OP, I'd be annoyed too. Your friend sounds like Constance Hall!

MachineBee · 03/08/2018 18:39

You can be friends with people IRL without having to follow them on Social Media. Unfollow her and she won’t notice and you’ll be spared her posts.

Changemynameandhide · 03/08/2018 18:39

Oh she wishes! Constance has nothing on her!

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Changemynameandhide · 03/08/2018 18:40

Trust me, she’d notice

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Guest6565 · 03/08/2018 18:41

Unfollow her. She can do this to herself.

I can guarantee people have unfollowed me. I’ve done the same with other friends. You can’t police each other

Changemynameandhide · 03/08/2018 18:43

You’re missing the point though. I don’t give a shit about seeing her posts. But I do feel for her whenever she’s mentioned and people joke “what the fuck is X thinking with all the pics of her kids shit”.

And not because they’re nasty people. But because their human.

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Changemynameandhide · 03/08/2018 18:44
  • They’re. Sorry. Knackered.
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Guest6565 · 03/08/2018 18:45

Some people might think that. Some people might think she’s “real” “open” “honest” whatever.

Changemynameandhide · 03/08/2018 18:53

Not possible.

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ProudThrilledHappy · 03/08/2018 18:58

Unfollowing on fbook is not the same as unfriending. She won’t know you have unfollowed unless you tell her

I don’t use instagram so no solution there

ItLooksABitOff · 03/08/2018 19:05

I kinda get it. I think the whole mommy blogger thing has been getting old for a while . But I agree with the others that you should just unfollow her. What would be the point of telling her: - to make a point? Is it absolutely necessary? Is it kind? And really, what would it achieve, except to make her feel bad?

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