A friend of mine has recently done something which makes me feel physically sick. I am usually quite comfortable talking through difficult things, but this experience has made me really reconsider our friendship.
To cut a very long story short. Friend, lets call her Mildred, had a one night stand with a guy a vaguely know. They went out again a week later had sex. I know the guy has just come out of a ltr, so when Mildred asked for advice i said take it slow, etc, and tried to reiterate he might not be looking for a relationship.
Anyway he begins to ignore her. Cancelled plans everyday for 10 days. She keeps asking and eventually he tells her to leave him alone as he is not ready.
The next day she tells him she thinks shes pregnant. She adds all these friends to a Mildreds going to be a mummy group saying she MIGHT be pregnant . At this point im a little confused but don't say much. As i didnt send a message of congrats i get a separate message asking what is going on. I apologise saying was at work, and whether she had done test. She said that she had done test everyday for 2 weeks but all invalid ! She just knows she is pregnant but too early to tell.
She tells me her and this guy will now be moving in together, and that he will be there for her. Theyve picked a baby name. She has told him she lpves him (finds it weird he hasn't said it back). Hmm i think, bit strange but whatever.
She then announces she might be pregnant on Facebook, along with bump pic. I get asked why i havent liked it. Again in work.
She meets me and has bought a pregnancy cushion, is waddling and cradles the bump. Still no positive test.
I am called a bitch when i ask if she wants to take a test with me. She says i think shes a liar like this guy. Guy is annoyed with mildred she tells me because Mildred wouldnt take a pregnancy test when offered. Mildred also says that this guy wouldn't let her stay at his.
Next thing i hear that she has gone docs on her period for a pg test with this guy. Guy flips and tells her to leave him alone as dr says she is not pg.
She then posts on fb that her period has come and that this is the hardest thing ever. That she doesnt want to talk about the loss she has experienced.
Alot of my friends have had miscarriages. But i think at three weeks, with no missed period, no unprotected sex, there was no pregnancy. It sits uncomfortably with me that she is trying to allude to this.
She has now posted a private convo with the guy in quesrion where she professes her love and he quite calmly says he doesnt feel the same way. She has captioned it as "dont love them til they love you"
I dont know why but i feel so uncomfortable arohnd her now. I have no words. What could this behaviour be a sign of? Why would anyone invite facrbook attention to all this????
Any advice appreciated