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To expect to receive what was agreed?

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NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 03/08/2018 17:19

The father of my children and I split eight years ago, after being together for 9/10 years. We have two children together.

I moved in with him soon after getting together into a property that he owned. I paid half of the mortgage from the date I moved in.

We then moved to a larger property once I fell pregnant, I wasn’t put on the mortgage as I still had CCJs on my credit file from when I was a teenager, but it was agreed I would be added once these cleared (after the six years). I never got added. Up until I had the kids I was paying half the mortgage, once I’d had them it would’ve cost our family more for me to work than it did for me to stay home, so I didn’t return to work under mutual agreement.

When we split there was £20k odd equity in the house. We verbally agreed that at some point he would pay me £10k of this, I didn’t demand it at the time as I had no need for it immediately.

I bought a house three years ago, and we agreed at that point that I would be paid back in full by the end of my five year fixed mortgage.

He is now saying he can’t do it, and that he’ll look at finances etc. and see what he can do.. but essentially he either fobs me off or ignores me.

I’ve tried to be nice, but really... I need that money. I had plans and now they’re all a bit ruined.

Any ideas on what I can/should do? AIBU to expect this money?

OP posts:
NancyDonahue · 03/08/2018 17:21

Legally, I don't think you have a leg to stand on with nothing in writing.

AnneLovesGilbert · 03/08/2018 17:22

YANBU to be annoyed but with no legal agreement I doubt there’s much you can do. What proof do you have of his offer?

Pippioddstocking · 03/08/2018 17:25

Was this offer included in a legal consent order ?

NotAsGreenAsCabbageLooking · 03/08/2018 18:57

No legal paperwork. Verbal agreement, which is then backed up by text messages.. but that’s it ☹️

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Ethylred · 03/08/2018 19:45

Talk to a lawyer. A real one, not randoms on Mumsnet.

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