To go to a hotel alone

[Firsttimemum892]

I am seriously sleep deprived as I am sure most of you are too. Baby co sleeps with me ,partner sleeps in the spare room this started as baby was bf and was easy for me to do this she’s now on formula but still sleeps in bed alone with me, I know some of you might say partner should return to our bed and help but I don’t think this will help me as I won’t sleep through her waking up .I haven’t had more than 3 consecutive hours of sleep in nearly 7 months and it’s really starting to affect me , I am in such a bad mood all the time and getting really irritable around her. I feel guilty as in the day I am so tired I find it hard to muster up a lot of enthusiasm to play with her. I have tried to sleep in another room whilst partner keeps an eye on baby but I feel on high alert as soon as I hear a little cry I cannot sleep. I really am considering a night in a hotel alone the thought of checking in and sleeping all night long is amazing and I feel like it will really re-energise me , has anybody done this before ? Would it be selfish of me ? I really thought things would be better by now she only wakes for a few minutes and needs abit of reassurance but it then takes me atleast 30 mins to get back to sleep then she’s up again not long after

That sounds great - you should get one with a bath (well...if you like baths!), have a nice meal and curl up with music/tele.

It would be a really nice break. Is DH ok with it?

It does doesn’t it ! I absolutely love baths and sleep they were my favourite hobbies pre baby Well he actually suggested it when baby was about 2 months old and I told him not to be ridiculous but now she’s a little bit older I am very open to the idea and I know she will be absolutely fine with him. I think I’ll speak to him about it later

That sounds great...but don’t be surprised if you still can’t sleep!

Can your partner take your baby away somewhere for a night or two? You’ll sleep much better in your own bed...

Not really a long-term solution though. Do you have a relative that would have her for the odd night? Co-sleeping can have disastrous consequences like this. By 8 months she needs no nutrition during the night and her dependence on you is habitual. This situation is not good for your baby, your husband and not you. Lose all round. You need help to break this cycle. Do you have a goof health visitor?

Do it. I've done it. I'm doing it again in a few months. Not sleep deprived any more, but just one night away does so much to improve my mental wellbeing.

If you are confident that by removing yourself from the house won't leave you unable to sleep due to worrying about how they are coping without you, then do it!

Alternatively, can you and partner swap beds? He has baby for a night and you sleep in the other room (utilise earplugs etc, so you do sleep)

Get a decent sleep and you will feel a million times more capable.

Also book another hotel night for shortly after, for just the two of you; if you have someone who can take the wee one.

Thanks for all replies ! I think it will do my mental well-being a whole heap of good even if I don’t manage to sleep much , I will try the me sleeping in the spare room too see how that goes, I don’t have much family who are willing to babysit especially not over night . @confusedbeetle I would love to break the cycle she has her own nursery I tried her in it a few nights ago she wasn’t happy at all woke every 40 minutes crying and actually looked traumatised by it , I am in the process of getting her used to the room playing in there with her etc. My health visitor was lovely when she first came but every time I contact her she says she’s busy and refers me to a clinic , any tips on getting baby to sleep in their own room ? The problem is if she’s in my bed I can take 1 minute to resettle her but if she’s away from me she gets hysterical and it takes a long time to calm her which leads to even less sleep for me