to be doubtful of the sex of our baby?

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Had a scan at 16 weeks due to concerns about the baby. We were having NIPT so it was a private scan as they don't do NIPT on the NHS. She kindly allowed us to know the sex of our baby and told us it was a boy. Showed us the boy bits and said it's absolutely a boy, that she's not allowed to say it is 100% but it was there, clear as day! I could see all of the bits quite clearly and definitely looks like a penis and testes to me!

I've heard of people getting it wrong, and being told the wrong sex. We are sticking to gender neutral stuff mainly anyway however DP is over the moon he's getting a boy (he has two girls already) and I'm just nervous it's wrong!

Any personal experience of this?

Part of me wishes we never found out but we were going through such a rough time, finding out the sex seemed like the right thing and DP seems a lot more bonded now he knows (as do I).

I may be wrong but I'm sure I've heard that if you are told your having a girl in a scan there's a reasonable chance that they could have just missed the testes, but if your told your having a boy it's much more likely to be accurate

coconut that makes sense.. we have no girl names at all and are all ready for a boy. DSD thinks she is getting a brother and is very excited. I am happy either way but can't get rid of this funny feeling that it could be wrong!

A boy is more likely to be correct than a girl.

I’m having twins and they’re in awkward positions. I was told one is almost definitely a boy, and the girl is likely a girl but they can’t be sure until they get a clearer shot because girls are harder to determine.

Both babies I have been told were boys and both have been boys. One we went for a private scan at 16 weeks and she could tell very very quickly.

I think there is always the possibility of error but they are usually like. They will hopefully be able to confirm for you are your 20 weeks scan.

*right not like

Oh and DS1 was confirmed at 16 weeks and was correct :)

They couldn't tell at our 20 week scan as baby was in a really weird position. Tried to walk about, drink fizzy drinks, etc and they still couldn't see! Unless we have more scans we won't know.

It’s easy to get a girl wrong as boys bits can hide but it’s very difficult to get a boy wrong!

Did your NIPT blood work not include the gender? I know u can find out quite early that route and maybe would settle you more x

@emma2939 annoyingly no! There wasn't enough foetal dna. They offered us a retest but we declined as the clinic is so far away. It's like the universe doesn't want us to know!

Going against the grain here but of the 2 people I know who got it wrong, both were told they were having boys and ended up with girls! That being said it's very very unlikely. I would fully prepare for a boy. Worst comes to worst you have to pick a girls name and she wears a few blue babygrows for a while.

YANBU to doubt, but YABU to obsess about it. I thought this was going to be a thread about an intersex baby. You'll find out eventually - just hold the information lightly for now.

Awww no how annoying!! he's keeping you on your toes!!
I'm pretty sure it will be correct, my boys was at 16 weeks xx

When I was in hospital with my dd some women was told she was having a boy and came back to the ward with a girl, so You're probably right to err on the side of caution.
Mind you that was almost 20 years ago.
Scans are much more advanced now I'd imagine, and Although they have been known to get it wrong 99/100 if they say youre having a boy/girl.It's usually right

We were told boy with this pregnancy at 16 weeks (now 19 weeks). I’m fairly confident as she flipped to 4d and I can see the penis and testes on the 4d photo! I’d be a bit as to what those bits are if it turns out to be a girl . We also have 2 girls already, we didn’t find out with our first but did with our second and the ‘three lines’ were also clear to see on the scan.

Not that it will make any particular different if it does turn out to be a girl, we’ve still got all our neutral newborn stuff from 1 and 2 so I’m not planning to buy anything new except a cot mattress.

I think it sounds like there's only the slimmest chance it isn't a boy.
Congratulations on your pregnancy op.

I have only ever heard of it being wrong the other way around. One of my friends was told she was having a girl and then they had their beautiful baby boy. I think if she was so sure and you saw the bits yourself I would say boy.

Congratulations either way!

@Inmyvestandpants I'm not obsessing over it but of course it has played on my mind as DP is so elated we are having a boy and I can't lie and say I haven't thought about the idea that it may be wrong and he could be disappointed... as I said, part of me wishes we just didn't know!

Did your NIPT blood work not include the gender?

Blood tests might be able to determine sex but they definitely can't determine gender.

Boys don't have to wear blue and girls don't have to wear pink anyway so don't worry about 'gender netural' clothing. Just put them in what you like.

2 of my cousins were told boy and they had girls. It happens but its rare either way.
I was very convinced they were wrong about both mine for some reason. But same as you I hadn't gone out bought tonnes of pink frilly nonsense or blue cars or whatever so it doesn't really matter.

My cousin was told she was having a boy. Got shown the ‘boy bits’. Luckily for the baby it was a girl as her boy name was horrendous (in my opinion).
It’s unlikely to be wrong if you’re told a boy but I would still be cautious about not going OTT on ‘boy bits’

@SomedaySometime when I say gender neutral, I don't just mean colour, I mean we are staying away from the 'daddies little soldier' and 'mammas little princess' stuff.

We were told at 20 am scan our ds was a girl, found otherwise at a later scan! But like p.o. said I think it's much easier to mistake a girl than it is a bit, for obvious reasons! Congrats on your baby OP