To be annoyed with DD's friends Mum?

[emma2939]

Hi all

My DD 6 and was best friends with a girl, they are no longer gonna be attending the same school in September and my DD was so upset, I didn't know the Mum much so just approached her and asked if they could possibly meet up every now and again, she immediately jumped at the chance, we swapped details and a few weeks later I got in touch. Just a quick msg checking all was ok to meet still, I received a reply within minutes saying definitely can't wait and then said whenever ur free and suggested some things we could do, I replied and said all sounds great and gave her some days I was free.......since then I've heard absolutely nothing.... no reply, these days mentioned have now been and gone and I still havent heard anything. I have a very upset DD now as she was around when we spoke so knows the plans were there, do I send another message or leave things? Has been active on social media etc so I don't know whats going on, I scanned my reply over and over and can't see anything I could have said to suddenly make her not bother. My DD Is upset and asking every day and I have no answer for her. Any advice? Xx

You could try one more time eith a specific date and activity, not a list of potentials and see what happens. If it doesn't pan out, tell your dd that they have gone on holidayfor the summer, so she doesn't think they just csn't be bothered.
At 6 though, she will make new friends quite quickly, so don't stress over it too much. Some people are super busy over the holidays or life just gets in the way of good intentions.

I would send her a message asking if she's available on a specific day for a play date/activity and go from there, she's possibly just busy and forgotten or maybe can't afford an activity, my dd around the same age tends to go to friends houses or they come to us, with host providing lunch, could you suggest that?

Thanks for the suggestions, the ideas we spoke about was at homes or park so no paying for anything. Maybe she has forgot but it's just strange how she said her DD had been begging to see her.I will give it a few more days and then suggest a specific day at my house. I didn't really want to put her on the spot at school incase she felt she couldn't say no but I didn't know any other way, i do think tho If she wasn't interested she could have just ignored my first message and not bothered replying, it's not like she would have to see me at school every day anymore! Thanks xx

Just text and say do any of those dates work for you and will plan around it .

People can be weird, I remember a nursery mum approached me all gushing about how well our boys got on and could we come for lunch/dinner/sleepover etc. We arranged it and went round to their house and they were out!
She had some bizarre excuse, the whole thing was just odd.