I wondered if you lovely people have any wisdom about a sticky wicket I'm in with DD nearly 2. She is still breastfeeding and showing no signs of stopping. In fact neither of us is ready to stop but after a long and expensive day in court a few weeks ago where negotiations over the children took place with narc (the speeding, groping one) STBXH I had to give overnights every other weekend. Up until a fortnight ago, the DC had never had a night away from me so we are building up with one night, then two and then three at the end of August.
I'm really unsure what the best thing is for DD. Is it kinder to try and wean her completely asap or carry on so she has the comfort at what is a very discomfiting time for the children. Until the children and I went into a refuge because things became untenable in the house when STBXH really ramped up the mental torture, she was almost back to newborn feeding, on the nub every ten or fifteen minutes and DS age 6 was having meltdowns and getting angry and frustrated. Since he has moved out, they (and I) are a lot calmer and happier and the atmosphere at home is gentle and calm, not toxic and uncomfortable any more. Is it kinder to wean her or kinder to let her come back to comfort? I would value your opinion!! I doubt we will still be doing it in six months' time but I'm feeling pressure to stop now and we aren't ready.