Is this inadvisable?

[Casperwashere]

• went on date with someone about six weeks ago, I thought it was good and he seemed to think so too! He messaged a lot in between, initiating convos and asking lots of qs. He asked for second date right after and picked a day
• a couple of days before second date, conversation dried up a bit and he left me on read. I was playing it by “the rules” (don’t laugh) so while polite was not super keen... didn’t mention second date apart from saying at the time I was looking forward to it. But no mention from me after he had brought it up
• I have since left the conversation, assuming he wasn’t interested. I know he is going through a strange time with work and I was super busy too

All in, I’m a bit curious and wondering whether to follow up. Normally I would 100% leave it but I am tempted to say something. Would I lose any dignity if I did?!

Bump

Don't do it.

If he's interested, he will contact you.

Nah don't bother. Find someone else. But also, ditch "the rules" and act like a normal human being instead.

Bugger. I never normally do but I liked what I saw and really thought he was into me. Was hoping maybe he’d got a bit shy. So unanimous no?!

No, if he was interested then he would have got in touch.

No from me. You want someone who is keen from the start.

No, I wouldn't. If he genuinely wanted the second date he would have arranged it.

When it's right, there's no need to play games or follow 'rules'. It shouldn't be this difficult after one date.

If it stops you waiting about contact him. It will prove his is uninterested and you can move on. Or if he is genuinely busy or has something going on or worried you aren't interested it sorts it.

Nothing to lose.

That was my logic LML. Given it’s so long after our date, how do I approach it?!

The whole point about the 'Rules' is they separate the people who are really interested from those that aren't. So I wouldn't follow him up based on that. However, as an adult in the 21st century you can do whatever you want. Message him, don't message him, there will be no guaranteed outcome of anything. Good luck whatever you decide.

I know several people who've met nice people by OLD, speed dating, etc.

I don't know anyone who's been in a significant relationship by following the "Rules". Just be yourself, whoever that is. Because that's the person you're going to be in the relationship.

Just a casual message and see what happens.
'Hi, how've you been?'

Gives him an opening if he is wishing he contacted you but casual enough to pretend it was sent in error if you want (that is immature, but sometimes helpful)

Good luck OP, 6 weeks is a while but I think worth it to move on or be lucky and give him a chance to get back in contact if he is just shy/busy/sticking to rules.