To not understand why people feel

[Horridhenry88]

That you can't call yourself a sahp once dc are at school.
After all school is only 190 days per year and only six hours a day.
A school aged child could be as young as four and still requires lots of input from parents.
Assuming you have a couple where both work the childcare and home responsibility should be shared.
Yet with a sahp they generally do the lot and rightly so during the week
So aibu to think that a sahp of school age dc is still a sahp.

sunflower then why on earth did you say someone whose youngest kid is away at uni and who has no childcare responsibility whatsoever is a Sahm?

Who said this then?, when was this rule put in place?, why is it anyone else's place to call others out on what they choose to call themselves? Why do you care? Stop caring they are just jealous gits!

Let's invent 3 expressions and advise the oxford English of our update, so no one gets upset.

1. No paid work but no outsourced childcare of pre- school age children
2. No paid work but no outsourced childcare of primary aged children
3. No paid work but no outsourced childcare of secondary aged children

I would currently say;

1. Sahp
2. Sahp
3. Housewife

I would say:

1 I don't care what people call themselves
2 I have never cared about this
3 I will never care about this

Then why not

1. Housewife
2. Housewife
3. Housewife

arethereanyleftatall

Who cares?

I've been a wahp for 20 years. My teens are still at home, I don't "look after them" anymore particularly but I don't have a life of leisure either. They take more time, more input, and more money than they did when they were littlies. I'm giving up working at home now, because I'm very old and a bit knackered, but I'll still be a stay home mum. Because I am a mum, and I stay home