To think its not my responsibility to help my ex?

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My ex has mental health issues. He hasnt seen our children in 6 months as I cut contact as the last time we spoke he said he was better and couldnt see them due to work. We cut contact after an argument and I didnt hear anything for 6 months. A few days ago he showed up at my door. I let him in and it became clear that he was still mentally unwell. He spent the entire time speaking about himself. I asked him to leave and have left it at that. I messaged him asking him not to contact me again. Aibu? According to some I should be trying to help him but I dont feel this is my responsibility as we are no longer together. He is my ex and not my problem.

You're totally right OP
Not unreasonable

Thanks. He has not exactly been a good dad and the last we spoke he said he couldnt see them as "They are at school during the week and he works weekends" But apparently I owe it to them to help him.

You're not being unreasonable, he is your EX after all, not a current relationship. However if he is genuinely well and you can offer him a helping hand in some way, it would be an act of kindness.

Not BU. Your responsibility is to your children not your ex and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Hes been sectioned twice and refuses any help anyway.

Stay away from him and his problems like the plague. He will only bring chaos and bullshit into your life.

You're totally right. If it's so easy to help someone with MH issues then why don't the judgey people do the honours? MH issues are very complicated and you could be inadvertently cause more damage to him and you by "helping". He needs to be an adult and engage with the professionals so that he is well enough to see the kids in future.

Your job is to protect the kids while he's ill.

His problems circle around me partly anyway and the children. Everyone he knows really. He is paranoid scitzophenic. He thinks he is on a Tv show and that everyone in his life are actors and that none of it is real.
I think its easy for people to say help when they are not in the situation.

Who is saying you owe it to help him? His family & friends or yours?

They are wrong, by the way.

That's really worrying. You're definitely doing the right thing by keeping you and your kids safe.

Sometimes you need professionals and medication to take charge and this is one of those times.

You’re already helping him by raising his children and keeping them safe.

A couple of my friends.
Even his own family said not to help him as he turns on anyone that tries to.

You are doing the right thing.

It doesn’t matter what other people think. You don’t owe help to anybody.

Whether you choose to help or not is solely your decision and choosing not to is perfectly reasonable.

Ignore the other people. Some people like to tell women they need to put themselves at the bottom of the pile and always offer support and understanding to men who come into their lives, no matter how undeserving.

You do not owe him your own happiness, your time or your care. You are responsible for your children, and it would not be healthy to have him back in their lives right now.

Just go no contact. You have no responsibilities toward him, just your children and THAT’S where your energy should go, not toward helping him. There’s no need for everyone to suffer is there!

Thanks its good to hear im doing the right thing.

YANBU.
Those people telling you to help are delusional and naive.