To tell them to fuck off to the far side of fuck.

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

I have posted before about my partners parents and things have just got worse I had his mum round here telling me that her husband has decided that i’m no good for his son anymore because I blew up on them months ago over what they where doing and today I got called a dumb bitch and a lazy do nothing girlfriend he thinks that my partner is working 6 days to keep me he’s working 6 days because people are on holiday at the minute. I have my own money I do everything for my partner i’ve booked our holiday I do all the cooking, cleaning, wash the clothes, I do all the shopping, I run round looking after my partner but I’m the lazy one. Just feel like telling them all to fuck off out of our lives because I’m sick of them now and I can do without all the bullshit. AIBU to just wish they would fuck off they are interfering, over bearing, no one will ever be good enough for their son and the only reason why they don’t like me is because I stood up to them and while their son is with me he doesn’t see very much of them and they can’t get money off him like they use to.

@Happyholdfinch I would move to the moon if it meant I could get away from them but realistically I think we could possibly afford to move away it would certainly do my mental health the world of good.

You don't have a PIL problem, you have a partner (their son) problem. At least he's started standing up to them though. Mine never stood up to his, only as he grew a backbone later on in life did he do it and they finally shut up and don't cross lines anymore.

Seriously, if your partner isn’t willing to cut them out you need to end the relationship. They’re toxic and will grind you down.

What does your partner do to stop their behaviour?

I’m pleased to hear you have been standing up to them, and so has he. Well done. They won’t like it, which is to be expected.

I suggest you try to learn to grey rock them. I will find you a link.

We’ve been told that we can’t get married or have children because they don’t want us to What?

If you own your house and you have any equity in it, moving could be an option. If you rent, even more so. I spend hours on rightmove.com dreaming of moving, but our jobs tie us to this area. If only 1 of you needs to work then it really is possible.

go nc. live the life you and your dp want. Ignore everything they say.

Change your phone number, and don’t open your door to them from now on. Make Tomorrow, first of August, a new month, abrand new start for you. Ignore them, don’t give them head space,have nothing more to do with them. Let your partner know that you don’t want to know anything more about them, nothing more, no complaints, no comments, opinions. nothing more about them. Good luck

www.thriveafterabuse.com/going-gray-rock/

Going no contact is also an option of course. Grey rock is if you can’t.

I would definitely go NC with these bastards.

And yes - if you can, move far far away.

@rubyjude I wish he has stood up to them along time ago but he is finally starting to grow a back bone.

@merryoldgoat I’m hoping that he now realises that he needs to cut them out otherwise he will loose me he nearly lost me after they said what they did today. I can’t keep having my limites and my mental health tested by the them 2.

@Notevilstepmpther thank you no they didn’t like it at all my boyfriend got told to shut the fuck up because he stood up for me. Thank you I will try that.

@52festiveroad yeah we can’t do any of that his parents won’t allow it we couldn’t live together until we had been together 2 years and even then it was only allowed if we where buying somewhere together that’s how controlling they are. They weren’t happy when we moved in together and they don’t need to worry about a wedding because there will be no invite for them and as for grandkids they won’t ever be told about any.

@Happygoldfinch thank you we rent but I’m going to look in to moving my dp is a chef so he can go anywhere with his job and with me not working there isn’t anything keeping me in the area.

@LilQueenie thank you that’s what I’m going to do and I’m just going to focus on trying to make a good life for us that doesn’t involve them.

@Coolcarrie thank you for that your right tomorrow is the new start of my life without having them to worry about. I will tell him that because I literally don’t care about them anymore and I really don’t want to have to deal with anymore of their bullshit whatever is going on in their lives is their problem and it’s nothing to do with me.

@Notevilstepmother thank you I will look at that.

I can now fully understand why my dp’s half brother moved to canda and stopped all contact with them because they did the same thing to him. Just need my DP to wake up and realise that they aren’t nice people and that he needs to forget about them.

@bluedeck thank you I will do I can’t deal with anymore of their twatty behaviour it doesn’t matter what I do I will always be the bad guy and they will use any opportunity to bad mouth me. They tried bad mouthing me behind my back to my DP that was the first time he stood up for me and he left theirs in a very angry mood because of what they said.

You can get benefits for depression nowadays??

Do you have a problem with that, @SugarisAmazing?

@Sugarisamazing I have anxiety and struggle to leave the house I’m also classed as disabled sorry if that somehow offends you.