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Original poster

I really hate my new job

63 replies

whatyadoing · 31/07/2018 15:20

I fucking hate it. Hate it, hate it, hate it. For clarity, I'm a team administrator. I hate that it's repetitive, I hate that I have to cover reception all day long and I hate that there is absolutely no autonomy. It's relatively well paid for what it is (28k) and the location is as good as it can get for me really. But I want to leave and I'm only there 3 months. I put my CV back online and had one recruiter call me this morning but I don't know why the fuck she called me as when I explained why I wanted to leave, she just sort of faded into the background....... Am I fucking stuck in this job?

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daisyinatree · 31/07/2018 16:05

I mean having a go at people for not responding - after only a few minutes - was not a good start!

PyongyangKipperbang · 31/07/2018 16:07

Can you afford to leave? What were you doing before you started there?

If you can afford it, why not do that and just leave it off your CV?

Original poster
whatyadoing · 31/07/2018 16:11

No, I can't afford to leave.
I guess, I assumed people would read my mind and know that I was looking for advice on how to apply for another job so soon into a new job. Evidently 'fuck' throws English people off.

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glasserator · 31/07/2018 16:12

Is this thread about you?

Pancakeflipper · 31/07/2018 16:13

Speak to some agencies and get moving. You hate it. It was a mistake but you can change it.

redexpat · 31/07/2018 16:15

I dont think you sound like a nightmare, you do sound very very frustrated though.

PyongyangKipperbang · 31/07/2018 16:15

Well maybe a change in your shitty attitude towards those people you are asking may help Hmm

Stupomax · 31/07/2018 16:18

Is this thread about you?

That jumped to my mind too Grin

Ypsilanti · 31/07/2018 16:20

OP what’s your employment history like? By which I mean, have you stayed in all you other jobs for several years + or have you (for no fault of your own) bounced around from job to job after a few months/a year?

If it’s the former, then you can totally look for another job now without it reflecting badly on you. Be honest with recruiters and say you’ve realised this isn’t the right role for you, and it’s made you realise what you really value in a job etc.. Everyone makes mistakes; just chalk this one up to experience. I left a job after 6 months because I hated it and my soul died every Sunday evening. It didn’t stop me from finding a new, fantastic job straight after, nor has it held me back since.

I know it’s soul destroying, but you can’t let it eat away at you or it’ll impact on your ability to come across well to potential employers. Good luck!

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whatyadoing · 31/07/2018 16:22

PMSL no that thread isn't (I hope!). For a start I'm not a receptionist. But I feel very very angry answering the phone. I try to be polite and just swear to myself. I'm normally a lovely person, this job is really doing a number on me.
I'll give you one example: I answer the phone and get some prick (Prick A) wanting to speak to another prick (Prick B) within our company. I call A and he says he's going into a meeting. I tell B. B shouts at me to put A on the phone NOW. I say I can't. B roars at me to tell Prick A not to bother calling him.

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daisyinatree · 31/07/2018 16:22

@glasserator

Is this thread about you?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3322696-Our-Receptionist-is-really-rude-on-the-phone?trending=1

Grin

Sounds exactly like the OP!!!

Original poster
whatyadoing · 31/07/2018 16:25

Think I got my A's and B's confused there......

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AJPTaylor · 31/07/2018 16:29

so what did you give up to take this job and why?

Original poster
whatyadoing · 31/07/2018 16:30

Taylor, I'm not willing to disclose what I gave up but it kind of means I can't go back. I'm stuck.

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runningkeenster · 31/07/2018 16:31

Well if that example is happening daily I can understand why you are so frustrated and better to take it out with us on the internet than face to face with colleagues.

Get your CV out there, look for jobs online and move. Anyone can have a mistake and there's no shame in saying to recruiters that the job isn't what you thought it would be and you are looking for more responsibility and autonomy.

runningkeenster · 31/07/2018 16:31

take it out ON us not with!

foxitude · 31/07/2018 16:31

There's clearly some very sensitive people reading this thread, I mean if someone can't have a rant on an anonymous forum where can they?! I'm sure the op is well able to conduct herself appropriately at work but here she is voicing her irritation and fed-up-ness. She doesn't need to 'chill'.
Op, a few suggestions...can you go part time and find another role to make up the hours? Could you seek out other roles within the organisation and sort yourself out some form of secondment? Could you chat to your line manager and request ways to improve your working day? Be honest that the repetition and micro management is not what you were expecting. Be calm and have ideas and solutions rather than complaints - also point out that they would get a happier person if they could make adjustments. Is there training you can complete that will mean you have more autonomy?
Do something though, if you don't make changes you are going to either end up off sick with sheer misery or sacked when you finally snap.

Stupomax · 31/07/2018 16:33

My problem is leaving a job after just 3 months there. I could have SHOULD HAVE waited for a different job but I really had no clue what the job was like. It's so basic, it's horrible.

Keep looking for something else. It's OK to leave a job within 3 months if it's awful. These things do happen - I've had it happen to me, and I did leave, and I've had plenty of great jobs since then.

For now try to be calm, use any free time you get to look for other jobs and to network, and remember you're not stuck there forever.

Original poster
whatyadoing · 31/07/2018 16:34

foxitude - you win. I'm already off sick for two days because I absolutely dread it.

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HappilyHarridan · 31/07/2018 16:40

Just apply for other jobs. There's no magic answer. I once started applying for new jobs to months into a new job. When I was asked at interviews why I was looking to move on so quickly I just said that it wasn't what I had expected and so was looking for a better fit, and points out that I had been in the job before that for nearly 8 years so reassured them that I don't have a problem with commitment.
Unless your whole cv is full of very short lived jobs it won't make any difference if there's one short term job in there.

Failingat40 · 31/07/2018 16:45

I had a shitty job like this where it was repetitive admin but needed concentration and focus but I had to do it whilst sat on a reception desk!

The constant interruptions and phone ringing for shite does become like a massive trigger, I get that.

I raised it as an issue multiple times to my bosses but they wouldn't/couldn't change it. I resigned.

They moved someone from another department to do the job I left and she lasted a few weeks at my old desk at reception before moving herself to a quiet office! I'd suggested it all along but wasn't allowed, she did it anyway.

Moral of the story- do what works for you. Get the job done the best you can and forward the calls to someone else.

In hindsight, I wish I hadn't resigned as it was a reasonably well paid job (though not nearly as much as yours) and I've struggled to find anything with nearly as much pay.

Most admin jobs are shit, especially if you've had more responsibility in the past. Your better to just stay and gather the salary up whilst looking for something else.

Just please yourself but try not to let the anger and frustration show at work. People seem to really hate negative people and you'll never be given bigger contracts to handle with a bad attitude.

'Fake it until you make it'Wink

PrivateDoor · 31/07/2018 16:52

OP I really feel for you Flowers I have been there! I was in a miserable, similarly well paid but incredibly boring job until a few years ago. I was there for a long time, started off ok but was promoted a few times and ended up in a horrible office. I did not fit in at all, my colleagues were all very close and didn't appreciate me coming in new as a manager. My own line manager was horrendous to me and deliberately didn't give me work to do then made comments to her manager about her having to complete reports herself or they wouldn't ever be done, despite me not ever being aware the pieces of work even existed. This was a public sector organisation that I had worked for for 12 years, but due to this bullying I had to leave. I was physically and mentally unwell, even developed an eating disorder. It emerged that another colleague within the office had been unsuccessful at getting my post and they were all taking it out on me. My biggest regret was not informing HR about the bullying before I left.

Anyway I am going off topic because obviously this is a bit different to you, but my stress and upset was mostly caused by a lack of being challenged in my role, I absolutely have to be challenged in work or I am bored stiff!

I definitely think you need to keep looking but do wait for the perfect job this time, there is no point jumping into yet another inappropriate role. I think you should speak up too to your manager, just say you are keen for a challenge and see what they say. Worth a try, as I say my biggest regret is walking away without speaking up first!

delphguelph · 31/07/2018 16:55

Are you the receptionist?

PrivateDoor · 31/07/2018 16:56

Oh and I should have added - I coped by taking up running, I got up at 6am and ran ran ran, a new challenge gave me something to focus on and put my energy into! I also took up a volunteering role in the field I planned to move to which worked a treat, I retrained and now work in my dream job and am very happy!

hammeringinmyhead · 31/07/2018 16:58

I said "chill" because OP seemed to have hurt feelings and turned pass-agg having not been replied to in 7 minutes! The job stuff is a justified rant.