AIBU to dislike girlie terminology for grown women?

[N21mummy]

I'm on a WhatsApp group with neighbouring women and some of them refer to us (and themselves) as girlies, babe, hun etc etc. We are all professional adult women, AIBU to find these infant terms irritating?

You just don't like these women.

People who 'hun you' act in a particular way - if they didn't use those words, they'd still act like that and clearly it's not to your taste.

Often the words aren't the problem; they're just symptoms of what is.

These are not your people! Let them go forth and make friends with hunnier folk.

User name does not check out

Some women talk like that. Some do it just to be patronising and others genuinely talk that way. If you don't like it, leave.

So you refer to yourself as 'n21mummy' but object when one adult calls another 'babe'. I'm not sure you have a case, really....

Yes you are although I hate hun.

My mates are the girls and we range from 40 to 60! We do actually know we are women but don’t find the word girl insulting so why would you?

If I don't overly like the person, this kind of terminology would annoy me. But my best friend and I still call each other 'babe' in actual speech, as a hang up from our 00's youth. But we never do it with anyone else, ever.

Just hang back from the WhatsApp group and put the notifications on mute, work out whether you actually like these people and if not, find other friends.

Well I quite often refer to us as girls.
Eg, 'Come on girls, we need to make a decision'
Women/ladies would sound odd to me.

You're obviously incompatible. Leave the group & find some friends that you like.

PS - "Professional Women" makes you all sound like hookers......

YANBU. I find it irritating too. Especially 'hunni'. I think it's mainly the spelling. I don't dislike the people who use words like this, I just dislike the words. I also hate 'LOL'. I think I'm basically Victor Meldrew in a 37 year old female body.

Not sure how my username affects me disliking it when women use babyish terminology for themselves and others? I am a mother so having Mummy as part of my username does check out?

Not sure how my username affects me disliking it when women use babyish terminology for themselves and others? I am a mother so having Mummy as part of my username does check out?

You’ve just explained it. Why would you use “mummy” and not “mother”?

I don’t like it, either. ‘Hun’ is probably my least favourite, closely followed by ‘ladies’. ‘Girls’ also not keen on. But I am a grumpy party pooper.

YANBU

I think infantilising/trivialising women through language is an important issue. Whilst seemingly harmless, it contributes towards belittling us and keeping us 'in our place' More so in a way when perpetuated by women.

That's my opinion anyway! I don't always challenge it though, I've found it necessary to 'chose my battles', and not use this type of language myself.