I’ve just discovered my hubby of five years has been sexting his old girlfriend. He hunted her zone to find her on Facebook and I saw two messages from her that were very explicit and when I confronted him he tried j to say it was just ‘banter’. This is coming from a man who made it quite clear that he believes sexting is cheating.
He wouldn’t give me any details about what had gone on preferring to minimilise everything as nothing serious. He said they’d sent messages as tha t was all. I told him to end it and he sent her a text to tell her I knew, that he loved his wife and he was an idiot! He told me he was feeling neglected by me and that I was partly to blame for his ‘mistake’. He had tears in his eyes and swore on his kids lives that he wouldn’t do it again. Our sex life is non existent. I used to initiate sex but then I got tired of it being all me making all the moves so I left him to do a little of the running which has resulted in no sex at all. It beggan to feel like he was just saying yes cos he felt obliged.
The next day he wasn’t as sorry ass he had been until his ex contacted me on Facebook to dish the real dirt. He’d asked for her address to go around and have sex, he’d asked her to send naked pics of her ‘bits’ and he told her he’d leave the kids at home while I was at work to go see to her!
I am so gutted, we’ve had a few rows over this and he keeps making it sound like I shouldn’t even be bothered as it is nothing important. I’m sick to my stomach about it. This has really made me ill I feel depressed and betrayed and he’s now behaving like none of it happened. He sad if I don’t just forget about it then it’s going to end in divorce. Why cant he see how he’s destroyed me inside, I feel I can’t trust him anymore. How do I get through this. I feel guilty for feeling bad about him but I feel terrible about me. If I can’t interest my hubby enough to keep him from straying then what’s the point. I don’t know what to do?