To have a luxury room

[ratbaggy]

After DC1 I was diagnosed with pretty bad post natal depression. Self care went out the window for almost a year and I was left in a pretty terrible state.

3 years later I'm well again and pregnant with DC2 due in December. I'm trying to plan in lots of things to try and prevent the PND hell fire from returning.

I have joined a health club to make sure I have some 'me time' and ensure I'm getting those much needed endorphins.

We are very lucky to have a spare room and My other plan is to create a luxury room in it just for self care time. So either my husband or I can book in some time in the luxury room. This room will have zero baby or child elements and will be a haven for us to relax and just have some zen.

The things I would like to put in there are some lovely bath and body products, magazines, books, nice scent atomiser,

AIBU to ask if anyone had any great ideas of what they would put in the room to make it a real adult escape area to keep me on the straight and narrow as I'm lacking in inspiration.

Thanks a million

A lock to keep out small children.

Posh candles, wine cupboard, massage chair.

Check out white company they do nice throws
Buy something nice candles
A aromatherapy vaporiser for relaxing smells
Sonos or apple speaker for music

music
soundproofing fabric/panels at least on the door

Jigsaws, crosswords, colouring books, whatever's your thing. A top quality crystal cut wine glass and a bottle of your favourite wine. Fabulous lighting, table lamps, standard lamp/mother and child lamp for reading, pretty fairy lights just because.

Lavender plants, a nook made of a canopy with a soft chair and cushions, a bookcase full of your favourite light reading. Quality nail varnish, a tea or coffee maker, a pretty cup and saucer, coffee table books for you to flick through, a beautiful throw or blanket, a footstool, a little basket full of hair treatments, fine milled soaps, bath bombs and perfume, a choice of pretty jewelry and a display case, glass box or stand to hang it from, and biscuits, lots of biscuits!

What a wonderful idea...like a spa...but without the bit where people touch you!

All the sense need to be engaged and relaxed....soft things for touch, diffusers or candles for scent, art or books for sight, tasty but healthy foods for taste, music......ooooh, I am already jealous

I’ve got a spare room, all my clothes are in there. Basically, there’s a bed and no room for much else. I retreat there when I can’t sleep. It’s clean, comfortable, I don’t want anything more. If it were bigger, I’d have a huge beanbag and an aquarium.

A Massage pad for a chair or if you can afford it a proper massage armchair
Sonos system for relaying music or mindfulness talks
Mood lighting

Blackout blinds
Cosy rugs
Throws
Mood lighting
Coffee/hot chocolate machine
No clock

Make a rule not to take your phone in there.

Is that really going to work? It wouldn't for me if there was a crying baby in earshot. Why not agree with DH that you each get occasional nights away with friends, family or in a hotel?

Soundproof it !

Yesssss!

Absolutely loving all these suggestions.

As baby is due in Winter I'm going to make it a Hygge dream.

It's not to escape the baby crying, it so I can go and spend an hour in a totally adult space when baby is with my husband downstairs and I can wallow in my cosy space and maybe even get chance to read a book or magazine as a little escape.

Will update with the rooms progress as I start to transform it.

Thanks everyone

It is definitely not an unreasonable idea it's an amazing idea!

I have done this with my bedroom as a result of PND and migraines, it’s my absolute haven and sanctuary. Aromatherapy diffuser machine, tv playing restful rain meditation app, white company pjs & sleep mask, Himalayan salt lamp for the cozy glow, sheepskin rug & cushion, different bed throws depending on the season, and a gallery wall of different prints I change about - at the moment it’s rainforest prints and palms - so soothing. I put on a meditainment app story and for 20 mins to an hour I’m in heaven.

@inthekitchensink this sounds like bliss!

It really is bliss! DH thinks the opposite - his haven is thumping music, strong coffee and tidying up