To think a coffee a day whilst breastfeeding is fine?

[JohnnyMcGrathSaysFuckOff]

I keep getting mildly disapproving comments

FIL asks if I want a decaff when we go over. I say, oh thanks but I've not had a coffee yet today so might have a regular one. He will check a couple of times with raised eyebrows and last weekend said "right, so x is having tea, y is having decaff and Johnny is having regular coffee as she wants her babies to be up all night."

DM also keeps asking, whenever the twins have anything slightly out of the ordinary wrong or have a shit night, "Have you been drinking coffee?"

I am beginning to feel a bit persecuted I have one cup a day, mostly instant at home but a couple of times a week a small or med size from a coffee shop.

I even tried giving up caffeine entirely for one week of hell but apart from making me a crabby witch it did nothing.

Please tell me it is normal to drink coffee when bf???!

Omg I couldn’t have survived my baby’s infancy without coffee.

It can be so tough with a small baby (babies in your case!). It’s very annoying when people try to make you feel bad about the little things you can do to help you through it (be it coffee, cake, beer, wine someone always has something to say).

Next time he does it, ask him why he's so interested in policing your boobs.

People love to wade in and talk shit about what you should be doing. With my first I was so tired I thought I was going to die. My sister in law said that I needed to give up dairy and that's why my baby cried so much. I just sat in my room and cried, lattés and chocolate was the only thing that kept me functioning.
I didn't give it up in the end and DD calmed down, there was no reason to think she had a dairy allergy.

It’s fine

Woman up and actually say in a lighthearted tone “oh please don’t spoil my one coffee treat a day FIL!”.

If he continues, repeat above but not in a lighthearted tone! And if he continues beyond that, point blank ask him not to comment on your caffeine intake.

r. I suggested to ex dil that it could be the acid in the baby's urine from her heavy coffee habit, when she stopped it the rashes cleared up quickly.

Acid?

Tbf I don't think FIL means it nastily, just he is genuinely surprised.

DM will ask for a run down of what I've eaten that day so she can 'tell' DT2 what is in the bottle of EBM she is giving her.

They all give us so much help and are lovely in every other way so I cannot say anything but sometimes I do want to scream I HAVE TWO BABIES GOING THROUGH THE 4MO SLEEP REGRESSION SIMULTANEOUSLY AND YES I WILL HAVE A SODDING AMERICANO IF I WANT ONE.

There. Much better now

I didn’t even know giving up coffee while BF-ing was a thing.

Oh yes SoyDora, we bf mums have to live on good clean water (neither too hot nor too cold), fresh air, poached chicken and spinach (well washed) - whatever's best for the baaaaaaaaybeeeeeeeee If you have managed to avoid being given this important information by curiously interested parties, congratulations on selecting an excellent circle of non-interfering gits for your friends and family!

I have twins. It’s physically impossible without coffee.

Ennirem I probably couldn’t hear them through the sleep deprived fog and caffeine induced delirium

Yes Carib Coffee is acid forming for SOME people.