He is 70 and very grumpy and he doesn’t need much to get him going. I have 3 grandchildren, 2 we are currently not seeing due to a messy break up between my son and his ex. He left her for another woman and children are being used as weapons, all currently going through court and Cafcas. It’s my eldest grandchild’s birthday soon so I call today to remind him of all the birthdays in the month. “I’m ignoring dg birthday, I’ve decided not to give gifts to people I don’t see” he said. Not going to deny it, it really upset me, especially as he did the same thing at Easter, but bought an egg for my youngest gc. He also buys and sends presents to his own late partners gc, who live in Ireland, 2 of which he never met, and I think he’s seen the other 2 maybe twice in 4 years. He never missed a school production for them, and it recently came to light, he used to collect them from school because he liked spending time with them! Never once did he get involved
Like that with mine! He has always kind of avoided them as he predicted this would happen when they were born. He’s made foul of them and fish of the other one. How do I deal with this? Am so hurt and angry on their behalf as well as my own.
They’re being estranged is not their fault and I’m already dreading this birthday. Am about ready to go NC.