Unreasonable or just me finding fault

[Finnyhaddock]

I put some old photos on FB. Dh tells me has found others on old USB which I can’t see because I only have iPad. He has computer for work.
This makes me stressed because of history of him using photos in passive aggressive(lazy?) withholding.
He has made nice tea but drunk whole bottle of Malbec and can of lager
I get palpitations coz I am cross - tell him he should have said he would show them me and/or send me them
He storms off to lie on bed and then tells me he is going to bed.
Takes me ages to stop palpitations. I’m on edge

Presume he thinks I’m having another go at him
Might very well not be deliberate but still causes me stress

I need to remember this is his problem - not mine. I hate the atmosphere but feel v strongly I need to say what’s on my mind.
Aibu

'because of history of him using photos in passive aggressive(lazy?) withholding.'

I don't really get the problem

He's withheld photo's which you would like to see and you have anxiety caused by this?

WTAF

Eh? So you uploaded old pics to FB, he's got old pics on a usb? He can't be arsed to upload them to send in a compatible format to your iPad? You've took the huff?... Can you not just use the usb on the PC he uses for work and sort it out yourself?

... but you haven't even asked him? But expected him to be a mind reader.

It would really annoy me if my husband withers family photos on purpose a I'm very sentimental. But this is way over the top to have palpitations over it when you didn't even ask him.

OP as a practical solution to your problem you can buy connectors where you can plug a USB into an iPad: www.amazon.co.uk/usb-connector-ipad/s?rh=i%3Aaps%2Ck%3Ausb%20connector%20for%20ipad&page=1&tag=mumsnetforum-21&ie=UTF8

However, on an emotional level you seem to be walking on eggshells around your DH and he’s causing you anxiety issues, and possibly he drinks too much and there is some emotional abuse going on. Perhaps talking to him when he is sober, and visiting your GP for help with anxiety might be helpful.

To all you PPs pretending not to understand the OP and belittling her and minimising her problems - you really ought to be ashamed of yourselves.

Thank you for all the helpful responses. I’m already on medication for anxiety.
English is my first language.
And I am highly trained in its use. Admittedly the OP was in note form to myself which I then cut and pasted to see what others thought.
And to those who have made such inane comments have you nothing better to do?