To not want DH to watch horror movies with DS (14 months) in the room?

[Quootiepie]

I won't let him watch them with me because I am a wimp, and I told him PLAINLY NOT to watch them this morning (or anytime) because I didn't want DS to see them. He thinks I am stupid, that DS won't know what it is and he will grow up as wimpy as me, but I just don't want him exposed to that - they are 18 for a reason. He agreed, but I checked on Sky + and he has viewed the first 62 mins of Silent Hill - obviously this morning while I was having a lie-in. He is coming back in a few minutes, should I let it go or am I right to be angry? I have banned him playing his scary PS2 games infront of me and DS, but I cannot see if he has been playing them or not.

someone please come and say no so I have permission to blast DH when he comes in

Blast him

I think you're right to be mad, Quootiepie. There's no way I'd be happy if I was in the same situation. I don't often rant, but that would make me reeaaaaaaaaaaaaallly farking livid!

Put your foot down on this! You're in the business of raising children, and children should never have to see this rubbish

ta

Agree.... they have an age rating for a reason.

... in fact (rant unconcluded), tell your dh whether he really wants a child who sneers at Snow White when he's two because it's just not gory enough!

Competely agree! Blast away! Granny bought my DD (2 years) a book about a monster who lived under this little girls bed. I won't even read that to my DD! I think they have such innocent and impressionable minds. Why would anyone want to put horrible images in there? No, no, no!

Give him what forQuootie!

It's irresponsible of him, Quoots.
Even the sounds from those kinds of movies are horrific - I sometimes have to ask DH to turn the volume down when he is watching in the living room and the DCs are asleep in their rooms upstairs.
Maybe say to him that you cannot force him not to do it, but you know that, as a responsible parent, he must appreciate that it is not a healthy environment for a young child.

it's completely irresponsible

however when is he allowed to see his films? Can he watch them in the evenings or does that count as being 'with you' so he can't watch them?

he should not should not should not should not be showing them in front of a child

but are you effectively banning him altogether? maybe a compromise where he can watch one while you read a book somewhere else maybe a couple of times a week would help?

I let him watch them just 100% not with DS and pretty much not with me. I let him play some Silent hill game while I went on the PC last night, or he can watch them if I am doing housework and DS in bed, just not infront of either of us. I am abit sensitive at the mo., even his war game gave me horrific nightmares the other night.

no, definitely do not let your ds watch this stuff!

I let my children watch Pirates of the Karibik II becaues I didnt realise it was a 15 - it is promoted with so many toys and other childrens products in teh shops here, which are clearly aimed at younger children.
I am sure that this is what started dd's phase of being scared of death - she the zombie stuff was real. was horrified when I realised that it was a scary film and a 15.

sorry, that should read let your dh let him watch them.

This sort of stuff is labelled 18 for a reason. That should be all your dp needs to know to justify your objection to ds watching them.

Might still be a bit young to notice at 14 months but he might.

Having huge age gaps we have the same issue with the twins (8) and their 18 year old brother. It's very hard to separate siblings. In fact they were saying the f word this morning which I never say and they said it's on something they watched with him.

Why isn't he at work, anyway??

Scary films in the daytime >

did you blast him yet?

Hmmm this might sound contentious. There was a thread on here a while ago about infant school children being exposed to horror films at home (I think)

I am a teacher, and this is definitely a child protection issue. I know your ds cannot understand them........yet. But I think it is totally wrong for any baby or infant to be exposed to these.

I would be very concerned TBH

YANBU. One of my earliest memories is settling down with my mum watching a horror film (I can still remember certain graphic scenes). I was probably about 5 when I saw it and am now 31 so believe me when I say that the effect on children is long reaching.

the issue for me would be that he is underminind your authority and going behind your back doing something you dont approve of.

he is being irresponsible and acting like a rebelious teenager imo.

he should respect your wishes,if you are feeling sensitive atm and dont want to see these films(silent hill gave me nightmares and im not normally bothered by horror films!).when i was first preg and feeling fat and horrible i couldnt stand the thought of dp watching any films that might have nudity in.he did get a bit fed up not being able to watch anything over a 12 for a while but he tried his best to understand and respected my feelings,and our relationship improved as a result as my trust in him grew.

that meant to say undermining.

my dd2(17 months)woke up in the night a couple of weeks ago when dp and i were watching a slsher film and i had to bring her down to give her some calpol,so we switched it off till she went back to bed.theres no way i would let her see films that are meant for adults,and nor would dp.

The Silent Hill games were enough to freak me out for life, let alone a film!

Not near my child!

If your ds was at nursery or a childminers and they happened to have a horror film on in the room, how would you feel?

Stand your ground. You know what's best for your child.