To be angry at my neighbour for smoking weed.

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Hi everyone, I apologise if my grammar, punctuation and god knows what else isn’t up to scratch So...I live on a lovely row with all old people or quiet family’s. NDN is 50s I think and also one of the quiet ones, we talk when we are both outside and she will get my children a chocolate gift at easter and Christmas. Never had any problems what so ever, however...for the last year or so she has started smoking weed. God knows where she gets it because it seems to be super strength stuff capable of giving even the dead the munchies (its pungent). As I understand she uses it for ‘arthritis’ pain but the problem is it ruddy stinks! It permeates my whole house! She used to smoke it on the front doorstep and my porch and cupboard stuff in there stunk of it, then she started smoking it on her garden seat by the back door and it just wafts through our whole house (not being dramatic either). It gives me a banging head, the kids are always asking ‘what’s the funny smell mummy’ and we have to shut the windows but it still finds it’s way in. Although we get on well enough I don’t feel it’s a conversation I could bring up and if I did I think it would be a MYOB situation. Whether it’s relevent or not I’ve really struggled with depression this year and have worked hard to move on from an awful start to the year, I feel that this is now beginning to get me down again as I can’t enjoy being in my own home. AIBU?

Yanbu op...it's awful to have to deal with the constant stink of it.

You have to mention it to her...the least she could do is bugger off down the end of her garden.

YANBU.

If you can't mention it to her ring the none emergency police line and report the drug use. It's still an illegal drug and you had the right to live without the stench of it.

The thing is, our gardens aren’t very big overall and I think even if she went to the end of it then we would still smell it (I kid you not it’s strong) plus I feel guilty for some strange reason (anxiety leads to overthinking) that it’s her house - technically rented and that she can do what she wants where she wants

Couldn't you ask her to smoke elsewhere because of the smell without letting on you know what she's smoking?

There was a similar thread a few days ago, and the responses were unanimous. There is nothing you can do about it, except, perhaps politely asking her if she would mind smoking at the bottom of her garden as the fumes give you a headache. Tell her you appreciate it is her garden and her business, but you would be grateful if she could see her way to walking to the bottom of the garden before lighting up. Maybe you could buy her a garden chair to sit in. You can't report her to anyone who would give a monkeys, and you have to continue to live with her next door to you. Be nice. Keep your fingers crossed.
Failing that, invest in industrial quantities of febreeze

Icecreamface, I don’t think I could get away with that because she doesn’t actually smoke regular cigarettes at all. There is no shelter at the end of our gardens so it would probably seem an unreasonable request for her to go up there for her ‘pain relief’

YANBU at all. We have neighbours two doors down from us who do this. I was put in the back garden with my little boy a couple of days ago and it stank of weed. I don’t want him breathing it in. It’s disgusting.