Okay, so my best friend is old enough to be my mother but the age thing has never been an issue. We connect on a level I've never had with a friend before and she just 'gets' me without me even having to say anything.
Anyway, I've had a lot happen over the last year (my relationship ended rather badly, I had to move out andI lost my baby daughter at 21 weeks on Christmas Eve) at first she was really supportive but now I just don't hear from her. We met through work and that's the only time I have any contact from her. She has gone from messaging me everyday to nothing. She has had some personal things going on and she has three grown up sons one of which has had some stuff going on so I know that she's been busy with that but I just feel so abandoned.
When I first moved out she said she would come around for dinner but she hasn't been once, she says about going shopping after payday but it never happens. I am estranged from my family and have no other friends so I am literally on my own. I don't speak to anyone from the time I finish work on Friday night until the time I go back there on Monday morning and she doesn't even bother to message me.
I stopped messaging her because I felt like I was bothering her and on the two occasions that I have messaged her of an evening over the last few weeks her response has been we'll talk about it tomorrow (meaning at work) which never happens and leaves me feeling like I shouldn't have messaged her because she clearly doesn't want to talk to me outside of work.
It was my birthday two weeks ago and I kno she forgot because she hasn't mentioned it at all and then a card arrived to work from an old colleague and it must of reminded her because she rushed out at lunchtime and bought me a present (she doesn't know I know she forgot but she went from not mentioning it to repeatedly commenting that it was my birthday after the arrival of the card). So I spent my birthday on my own.
Am I being unreasonable and expecting to much?