To think if your OH doesn’t want to...

[Smellbellina]

Celebrate their birthday with you, at all, you might as well accept the relationship is over?

I’d move on OP, there will be plenty of more suitable partners out there for you. He doesn’t sound like the one to me.

Its a bit ott to end a relationship over. Just celebrate another day with him. Guessing he wants a lads only night?

It’s not the one night Jessie he just doesn’t want to do anything to celebrate it with me

Just celebrate another day with him. Guessing he wants a lads only night?
You don't seem to have read the thread, the OP can't celebrate another night with him when he doesn't want to (I suppose she could pretend to him on evening, when he isn't busy with anyone else, that it's a normal evening, but secretly celebrate, singing happy birthday under her breath perhaps?).

(I suppose she could pretend to him on evening, when he isn't busy with anyone else, that it's a normal evening, but secretly celebrate, singing happy birthday under her breath perhaps?).

If he wants to go out with his mates fine but he should also want to do something with you on another day. If you were living together and went out a lot then maybe it wouldn’t matter so much. You also say on again off again, not sure I know any long term couples who were on off again, or at least ones that last. Cut your losses and find someone who wants to celebrate their birthday with you as they want to celebrate with the most important person to them. Life’s too short.

Get rid asap he is wasting your time OP.

On again off, sounds as if he doesn't view you as a girlfriend. Tell him it's over for good and look for someone better OP.

I'd decide to be perm off.

Had an Ex like this - he was just keeping his options open. Twat.

I think really this has just confirmed what I already knew. Thanks everyone

Was just replying to the initial question starting thread. It seems there is more going badly in the relationship.
You definitly deserve better than this

Sorry to say, he's just not that into you, OP Not your fault, that's just the way it is.

he's just not that into you
Funnily enough that was the exact phrase that popped into my head! I’m surprised he’s so cross with me for being hurt by it, but there you are.

Sounds exhausting.
Op you deserve a man who has your best interests at heart, who is excited to see you , who prioritises you, and who makes you feel loved.

Don’t stop till you find him!

It is only a birthday. Some people are not bothered about their birthdays. And for others it is a time for meeting pals rather than a date night. Don’t read so much into it.

That’s assuming that the relationship is OK otherwise. Which going by other posts may not be the case.

Well he isn't your OH is he? Sorry but I hate that phrase anyway.

It sounds like he is a bloke you have been dating on and off? And that he is a bit of a selfish wanker.

Better off without him

No he’s not a bloke i’ve been dating on and off we have a lot of history. But this has just made me think why bother.
Thank you @ohyesiam I needed to hear that.