to have a lazy day??

[pastelflowers2]

I have two teenage DDs and a DS whose 9. DH was at work all last week (excluding the weekend) whilst I looked after DS monday-wednesday and he was with his football club on thursday and friday whilst I was at work. DD1 (16) went to see her pony, met up with friends etc whilst DD2 (15) had her birthday party, went to the theatre with me, had many sleepovers and went to gymnastics.

They’ve all had a fairly busy week and asked for the weekend to relax which I agreed to as they deserve it. However, DH thinks they should be out busying themselves (the teens with friends and ds at a club) so we can have the weekend together and as I’ve let them relax today and yesterday, it’s all been a bit tense even though DH now agrees with me.

So was I being unreasonable to let them have the weekend to chill at home, in the garden etc?

No, everyone needs time to relax and just do nothing. It's how you appreciate being busy and having fun and vice versa.

If your children want to, and have asked to, relax, who on earth would shoo them out of the house and force them to do things? We all need time to recharge!

YHIBU

Does dh not like having the dcs around?

He does sevendown but he believes they should be out enjoying themselves all the time rather than going on their laptops, watching netflix.

Relaxing at home doesn't have to mean being on laptops or watching netflix. I think it's still okay to limit screen time, even when they're at home chilling out.

Of course Yanbu. It's one weekend! It does everyone good to do diddly.

bridget, they won’t be on their phones/ipads all day long. DS is currently doing his summer project for school but once that’s done in an hour, he will be allowed to play fortnite with his friends for a couple of hours before dinner, DD2 is feeling poorly so is allowed a laptop all day to watch netflix in the background and I won’t be limiting screentime for my almost 17 year old as she is sensible enough to know her limits!

Are they his children?

Yes

Nothing like feeling welcome in your own home

Bloody hell its their home! Surely they can just chill sometimes? Tell you DH to look for clues in the words 'summer 'holidays' and 'weekend.'

YANBU - everyone needs time to relax at home and that includes kids. They will be at school (and college for the older one?) Normally and the holidays are a chance to have a breather from the madness of term time.

I have a 4 year old who has just finished preschool and even he needs time/space at home to just chill.