Two friends of mine are caring for a parent with advanced dementia and are struggling with it, understandably. I also have a parent with dementia but the difference is that my friends have their parents living very close by whereas mine is in the USA. I struggle with my parent having dementia, they don't really know who I am and are very isolated from family and most of their friends have died. I need to get a grip and stop feeling sad about it don't I? it's not like I've got the daily hardship and struggle that my friends have got, they talk about what it's like and I really don't have a clue as I'm so far removed from it. I feel I'm not entitled to be sad about it as I'm the lucky one not having to deal with it daily.