to think this was out of order

[purplestrawberry2]

Have come home from shopping feeling like bursting into tears. Dd (aged 5) is normally very well behaved while out shopping. today however she was being very defiant, shouting and screaming. all triggered by wanting a toy (had explained to her several million times that she had spent her money) then a snack (again explained that she had just eaten lunch). at the tills she got really bad so after a warning I asked husband to take her out the shop. She tried to run away so he picked her up.

Another customer then says "i hate to see this I want to punch his fucking face in" or something along those lines about dh and then proceeds to give dh really filthy looks whenever he saw him. dh didnt shout at her or anything, just picked her up to take her outside to calm down.

So what am I supposed to do?! several million threads about people hating kids acting up in shops but when we try and remove that we get treated appalingly! Also what gives anyone the right to comment on a 2 minute snapshot of someones parenting?!?

ok rant over

Don't get so affected. The person sounds mentally unstable or something.

My dd used to have frequent meltdowns.

Nearly every single time she had them outdoors someone would suggest smacking her

I'm not sure these idiots are best placed for dishing out parenting advice tbh.

Surely most parents if a child is sulking/generally being a pain they take them out the shop and Yes you would pick them up if you had too!

Some people like the person in the shop either don’t have children and are the “oh I’d never do that type” or they are just plain weird, think no more about it

& if your DH hadn't picked DD up & she'd run out or bumped into the woman she would've had a good swear about that. Some people just like to moan. Sounds like she'd be a great parent, going straight to threats of physical violence. Keep your head up OP you're doing the right thing not caving in to DD's requests and she will soon get it and won't cause a fuss

@purplestrawberry2 - I promise you that, when I see parents like you, who are clearly having a bad day with their child, but are still trying to deal with their behaviour, they get a sympathetic smile and a nice comment from me.

Most people understand that children can be difficult, and that every parent can have a bad day, and can tell the difference between that parent and the one who is letting their child use the supermarket as a playground because they can’t or won’t discipline them.

Someone should write a book. Random Wankbadgers and their Parenting Advice. Would be a bestseller.

You did the right thing standing your ground with your DD and removing her from the situation.
The other person sounds deranged.
Take no notice. It'll be the first of many melt downs.

Thank you - I did think we were being decent parents who were struggling a little bit but this person (a bloke) made us feel like we were being too harsh like we shouldnt pick her up or anything. After a bit of time I can see they were just being a bit of a knob.

Also many thanks MrsTerryPratchett for the term "wankbadger" I am going to start using this

You/dp were dealing with dd not behaving. Shame no one dealt with the womans shit attitude

*the mans

Wankbadger! 😂