To think that he's a shit excuse for a dad?

[RoseGardenDreams]

My ex and I have a 4 year old dd. For the past couple of years he's been working abroad and has missed out on so much of dd's life and as a result she has no bond with him. He's supposed to be returning next year permanently but has now told me he's not coming back.

Aibu to be pissed off that we had a child together and he's over there living the single, batchelor lifestyle while I do all the parenting?

YANBU, but you’ve got your amazing daughter and he’s got....

He is the one missing out.

I know. It just still surprises me how shit he is!

Yanbu

Hopefully if he’s got such a good job abroad he’s paying decent maintenance. He’s the one that’s losing out.

XH is like this, has several children including DS1 and I knew about his DD, turns out there are 5 more I knew nothing about.

It’s only now that DS1 is becoming a young man that I think he’s starting to realise how much he’s fucked up as a Dad and that it’s too late.

My friend refers to XH as a wasteman and I think that sums him up tbh.

Well you aren't together so you can't dictate what he does - maybe the cost of living is cheaper, or he can get regular work. Perhaps he has a circle of friends there.

Unless he's tossing it off in Magaluf pretending he's 16 again.

Yanbu

I can see why he's your ex...

YANBU. However you sound like you're doing great on your own anyway.
it's his loss. He'll regret it when she's older
and the yearshave gone.

He IS a shit dad....in fact he's not a dad at all, really, only in the biological sense. What a twat, missing out on all the times with his child.

I try hard to do my best but most days (especially recently) it just doesn't feel good enough. I'm exhausted and have zero support. I can't believe how shit he is. It's just not fair