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To think these honeymoon parties sound daft

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Atlastatlastatlast · 27/07/2018 22:52

Was listening to an Irish radio station this morning and apparently honeymoon parties are the latest thing. Bride and groom wait several days before heading off on honeymoon and on meantime bride has a honeymoon party for her girlfriends and everyone has to bring along a pressie for her related to the honeymoon.

Was someone having us all on or is this really a new thing?

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ReggieKrayDoYouKnowMyName · 27/07/2018 22:54

Oh God not more bullshit. I’m so bullshit-occasioned-out.

Sparklesocks · 27/07/2018 22:59

So you get a wedding present AND a honeymoon present?
It’s a no from me!!

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Atlastatlastatlast · 27/07/2018 23:00

I know. I'm thinking engagement party, hen party, three day wedding, honeymoon party, gender reveal party, baby shower..........Shock

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Ithinkthatsenough · 27/07/2018 23:01

What a complete shower of shite, if it is even a thing tbh... sounds like daily fail fodder

LilMadAgain · 27/07/2018 23:02

If it's real I would say that 'daft' would be the polite description. I fucking hating bullshit occasions (gender reveals and baby showers anyone? Week long stag/hen parties abroad?) Fuck that shit.

HollowTalk · 27/07/2018 23:02

This is all because people have sex before marriage. If they didn't, they would not be messing about with this sort of thing!

DaphneFanshaw · 27/07/2018 23:02

Wtf ?
I am so glad my sil didn’t hear about this or she would have done it. I can just imagine it.
The world is going mad with celebration of celebrations. I am really live and let live, I really am but this fucking bat shit.
I wonder when it will be edgey and retro to not have a gender reveal cake or just have a hen night instead of a hen weekend.

FrozenMargarita17 · 27/07/2018 23:03

Whaaaaaaat???

switswoo81 · 27/07/2018 23:06

Is this not an adaptation of the tradition of Kitchen parties . The brides mum usually would host a party for the people who wouldn’t be going to the hen, aunts, neighbors etc in her kitchen. Men shipped out for the night.They would each bring an item for the brides kitchen a spatula etc as it was presumed the woman would be moving into her first home from her parents.
Obviously now that most women have homes it has evolved. It was really an excuse for a hooley in the brides family home. The old secretary in my school had a party for me before I got married.

LoveInTokyo · 27/07/2018 23:09

WTF?

No, this isn't a thing. Not for normal people anyway.

Gardenpicnic · 27/07/2018 23:12

This is all because people have sex before marriage.

I had sex before marriage and didn't get a honeymoon present Angry

HollowTalk · 27/07/2018 23:16

Clearly you didn't have enough sex, Gardenpicnic!

AhoyDelBoy · 27/07/2018 23:19

A newlywed I follow on instagram did this #matesmoon Hmm

They were in Europe though (from Australia) so maybe they wanted to spend time with friends and not have them spend $$$$ on very little time with the couple? I still thought it was weird tbh. Some people have too much money.

yorkshireyummymummy · 27/07/2018 23:24

God......soon it’s going to be obligatory to give somebody a present every single time you see them.

Wdigin2this · 27/07/2018 23:31

May I dare suggest, it's another Americanism!

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Atlastatlastatlast · 27/07/2018 23:34

Yes they said on the radio it's being copied from America. But why on earth do some brides think they are entitled to so many parties and presents? Do they think people have nothing to think about or spend their money on except them?

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Cliona1972 · 27/07/2018 23:34

Never heard of it in Ireland and certainly something I wouldn't go to, like baby showers.

Pauperlil · 27/07/2018 23:39

It be the norm in a few years just like baby showers, prom, gender reveal etc etc . Iv barely got any money and friends 🙈 so all these things pass me by but I see other ppl do this stuff on fb I just think it’s so grabby and celebration for the sake of it. It must cost ppl a fortune

LoveInTokyo · 27/07/2018 23:42

I'm so confused by this. It's a few days after your wedding, so your friends have probably already bought you a wedding present, right? So why do you need more presents? And one "related to the honeymoon"? Do you have to take an extra suitcase with you to fit all your presents in? And what is a present "related to the honeymoon"? KY Jelly and a load of sex toys? That'll raise a few eyebrows at airport security. The mind boggles!

Eggzandbacon · 27/07/2018 23:43

Getting married is not an achievement! You don’t need to be showered with gifts every 5 minutes to be shown how clever and amazing you are.

I can say this now most of my friends who got married in our 20s are divorced and I’m bitter at the time and money I spent on basic hen/wedding shit.

Avalla33 · 27/07/2018 23:46

This is definitely not a common thing in the US. I've never heard of it!

PlatypusPie · 27/07/2018 23:50

Wut! We had a delay between our wedding and honeymoon and our DD is getting married soon and doing the same ( both due to entirely logistical reasons) and the last thing I think you would want is more celebrating, effort or socialising - just a nice peaceful time to get used to being married, reflecting on the day ( hopefully fondly) and getting on with the thank you notes.

CoolGirlsNeverGetAngry · 27/07/2018 23:54

Oh for god’s sake. Another thing?
I thought it was bad enough that there is a “tradition” now that all the hens have to buy knickers to give the bride for her honeymoon. The knickers have to represent something to do with your relationship with the bride. They are given at the hen party and the bride has to guess which hen bought which pair of knickers for her. Hmm

Procrastination4 · 27/07/2018 23:55

Not a thing in Ireland,either, in the case of any wedding I or any of my colleagues have been at over the past three or four years. Someone’s obviously hoping it’ll catch on, and meanwhile is leading her “friends” up the graden path, more fools them for falling for it!

Maverick66 · 27/07/2018 23:58

Omg! Will it never end?
Importing of this total bullshit from America.