Baby shower....

[MooMummy12]

To wonder why a relative is having a baby shower for her 3rd baby??

Because she wants one? I don't like them personally, but is it really any skin off your nose?

I don't think there's any rule that you can only have one once. Don't go if it's not your thing but don't be sneery about it

I just thought people only had them for a first baby. Just wanted to know if it was or not really ...

I thought you could have them for each baby if you want. Bit of a get together and a laugh before the baby comes?

I didn't have one and have never been to one.

Definitely CF to have a baby shower after your first baby! There most definitely is a rule about it.

A friend of mine had one for her 4th baby last year.
Baby showers are very popular with my friends.
I like them well enough. I hosted one last year for a friend having her first baby. It was a lovely evening. She wanted lots of advice and we had a lovely time talking about our babies and things we;d done with them.

Prob just wants to have a get together?
Ive been to a baby shower for a 2nd baby. Was a lovely meal with some cake. Everyone pooled together and got some amazon vouchers. We knew it would be hard to get out and about for a good while with a newborn and a toddler to contend with. She loved it.

Don't go if you don't like it 🤷🏼‍♀️

Maybe just don't go. I had a baby shower for DD1 but with DD2 I had too much going on so never had one but I really wanted one. Personally I feel like it's like a baby celebration

It doesn’t really bother me but never had one and never been to one. What I do find odd is women for whom it is not their first child wearing sashes that say ‘mum to be??!’ You are not a mum to be - you already have a child 😬

The rule of thumb where I'm from is Big baby shower for the first one, no additional showers Unless a different gender baby but is more low key since you need less stuff.

The other exceptions are a multiple birth or a significant age gap between kids.

For example my cousin has a 12 year gap between her first and second child and a 10 year gap between her fourth and fifth child. Obviously she didn't keep all her stuff with such a huge gap.

@kaytee87 I never said I didn't like it though did I??. Was just wondering if I'd got it wrong that I've only known people to ever have a baby shower for first baby.

@ZoeWashburne this is what I wondered?

Baby showers are awful, whatever number the baby is

How could you get it wrong that you've only known people having one for their first? That's obviously been your experience up until now so obviously you're not wrong. Now you know someone who's having one for her third.
It's obvious you wanted people to say she's being ridiculous and grabby, otherwise why would you start this thread?

@kaytee87 not really. I posted to see if it was a popular thing to have a baby shower for 2nd, 3rd,4th etc babies. I've only got 1 so far so have only ever had one baby shower though even that was a surprise.

I've got nothing against her having one she's my cousin and I'm happy for her and will be going regardless.

Sounds like you're just being an arse with me and got the wrong end of the stick.

Yeah ok

@kaytee87 maybe just don't comment next time and call someone for not being as educated on baby showers as you clearly are.

kaytee Baby Showers stem from America.

They are for the 1st baby only, they became a 'thing' because maternity packages over there are either not great or non existed for many.
So friends and family gather round to help purchase all the baby stuff, and shower the pregnant lady with gifts.

You're most mistaken if you think it's normal to have one for subsequent children.

I think they're all incredibly grabby, and I do think a bit less of someone if they choose one. Not permanently, but in my head I do think "Oh, I thought you'd be a more level headed person than that"

@wineandmine I didn't say it was normal, I just told op not to go if she didn't like it